what happens when you drop out of a sorority?
by: Need some adviceI thought I would love Greek life. I've been looking forward to this since I was in middle school. I got into a house I really wanted. But now I just don't see myself doing this for 4 years. Everything is fun and I've made lots of great friends, but I never have time to study because of all the swaps and Theta Encore practice. I'm worried about my grades and losing my scholarships. Everyone says give it a year, but I just don't know if it makes sense to wait that long. What happens when you drop? Is there some kind of fine? Can you still talk to girls in your house or are you just shunned? Is it better to drop now or wait until after freshman year? Looking for honest answers please, not lectures about how I took a spot from someone who would love to be in my position.
#2 by: Listen
Don't drop. If you didn't like your chapter, I might suggest dropping before you initiate, but clearly that's not the problem. If time management is your issue, that's understandable. Things do calm down in the spring, and at least in my chapter, council is understanding if you have to study for a midterm or whatever, and with study hours and academic chairs, it's fine to miss things every once in a while. So don't drop just because it's busy, but learn to say no sometimes. You don't need to go to everything, and if you're upfront with your sisters about having to focus on school or else you'll lose your scholarship, they'll understand. But if you do decide to drop, there are consequences. You'll have to pay all your remaining dues, you'll never be able to participate in sorority things again, and you won't have the benefits of national membership. Yes, you'll probably lose most of your friends, especially your big, because they'll be busy with sorority things that you can't do. But look at the upperclassmen who don't have time to go to everything; things definitely calm down!
#3 by: are
are you just dropping because your of your grades?
if that's the only reason than I wouldn't drop. I felt the same way my freshman year, had an older brother in med school (i'm pre-med also) and he basically said if you can't handle greek life and college than med school isn't for you.
If you don't like your sorority or the people than go ahead and drop.
But just a heads up, there is not a soul on this campus that will say greek life is as good as what they expected it to be.
honestly you'll figure this out by spring of your freshman year that greek life is basically for people that can't make friends or get party invites. and the top girls in each house that hasn't dropped, kind of separates their selves from the greeks. Don't get me wrong they are super nice and get along with everyone, but they don't ever put their letters in their bio, wear game day stickers or go to formals or optional events
#4 by: ^
To actually use "their selves" and try to justify it by being tired and then attempt to discredit someone for pointing it out? Way too defensive. No college student should have to make grammar a priority; it should come naturally. For a med school candidate, being careful and detail-oriented should be second-nature. It is possible to be accurate in English, and calculus, and chemistry, and physics, and on standardized tests too. God help us if you get anywhere near a patient.
#5 by: Hi
Each sorority is so different don't turn to this website for any answers. My sorority can't fine new members so I'm guessing others are really similar in that. You're not required to go to swaps, if you're really considering dropping for academic reasons try not going out as much. Devote specific nights to studying. There's so many other answers to your problem. I think you're an average freshman who is beyond stressed out and finals week is coming up and you're just exhausted. There encore is almost done. First semester is almost done (aka not as many socials coming up next semester). Unless you despise your sisters Don't drop. Don't give up on yourself, you can do it!
#6 by: What happens...
No one has answered your question but...
1) you get socially shunned by everyone
2) you get hazed in some way because you wasted a spot
3) you're talked about for at least a semester
4) you lose any social status (you become a nobody)
5) you will never hold a leadership position because your ex sisters will slander you
#7 by: thoughts
from what it sounds like is that you just aren't as interested in what they have to offer. And the grades and homework just trail behind as another building reason. I don't know what sororities all these other commenters are in, but I know for mine and my friends that aren't in my sorority, dropping wouldn't be a break of any friendships. If you have legitimate reasons to drop (in your case, grades are a very good reason) the other girls should understand. From what I know, there shouldn't be a fine for dropping..and if it does break friendships in that sorority, are those really sisters or friends you want to have? Ones that easily walk away because of a sorority?
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by: OPNov 12, 2016 5:35:47 PM
Pay all your remaining dues for how long? The semester? The whole year? This is the part I don't really understand and can't ask anyone in my house because I haven't decided what to do.