not fair

Obamacare rush!

Your daughter is LUCKY to have one invite to pref. Many beautiful and accomplished PNM's were not as lucky this week. Cuts can happen at any time; while the chapters have to release larger numbers earlier in the week it doesn't mean that any PNM is "safe" until the pref invites go out.

I am sorry your daughter thinks she is too good for the house that invited her to pref. That's what you meant by "doesn't see herself there", right?? Because I don't understand how your daughter could see herself being unable to make friends in a group of 300-400 women. There are all kids of girls in every house - academics, partiers, Bible beaters, cheerleader-types, student government types, serious girls, funny girls, etc. I'm sorry your daughter wasn't able to see that during her rush week. The reality is that unless your daughter makes a huge amount of friends in a key house or two this year (while making 3.75+ GPA and being involved in prestigious campus organizations), her best chance of ever joining an Ole Miss sorority is happening TODAY. I hope she filled out her pref card and will give this house a chance.

This is what happens at schools where the Greek system is competetive. Nearly every girl your daughter was competing with also has stellar credentials. Not everyone gets a trophy in the real world. I didn't get my top house, but I sucked it up and went all in. And looking back, I wouldn't have it any other way. She may be devastated, but that's life. Plenty of girls didn't get anything today. But one house saw something in her that the others didn't. And for that, she should be grateful. But instead she'll just quit altogether because she didn't get what she wanted. And sadly, she will have missed an opportunity to learn resilience, which is something all Panhellenic women aspire to.

I wish your daughter would have more of an open mind. So many PNM's are in the exact same situation. And they would be her sisters. Those are the ones she would be spending most of her time.

She will miss out on a great opportunity to be a part of one of the many great national groups that are at OM and miss out on those connections, activities and friendships.

I know many many girls in the same position as your daughter. Many dropped out today rather than accept a bid to a house they didn't see themselves in.

I know one girl in particular who woke up this morning thinking she would be preffing two houses she had friends and family members in and was dropped by both. Devastation all around as actives in both houses were shocked and upset. Before you tell me that I don't know what I'm talking about, actives from both houses walked out on pref ceremonies today to comfort her. I was there.

We all tried to talk her into the two houses she had left, but the shock was too much for a young 18 year old girl who already had friends and family in the houses she was a perfect fit for.

All I can say is that there will be just as many girls who are choosing not to go Greek than there are girls accepting bids they don't want.

I have seen so many crying, sad, and devastated girls this week! Both Actives and pnm's. Rush is suppose to be a fun time and this year it has been anything but! Please don't let the craziness of this year ruin the rest of your college years. Make the decision you feel is best for you. There are so many of you we really wanted......it's been a hard week for all of us!