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by: take heed pnms

I dropped my sorority my junior year because the sisterhood was not that great. And I've been more or less "shunned" by my former sisters ever since. Last night was my birthday and my best friend from my pledge class instagrammed a picture of me wishing me a happy birthday and not a single person from our sorority liked it. And now I feel like a loser.

So my advice? Find the sorority with actual sisterhood. Otherwise you'll spend the day after your birthday thinking you must completely suck.

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#1  by: Sorry   
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I wouldn't take it to mean you are a loser though, it reflects more on the person who posted it than the person in the picture. :) Happy birthday!

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#2  by: Sorry too   
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I am so sorry that this happened to you, but honestly this is to be expected from the group that YOU dropped. If a sister drops, the rest feel hurt and betrayed and shunned just like you do now. Dropping is a pretty public statement about the way you feel about all those girls and it's hard for them not to take it personally, so even if you didn't like the sisterhood, you did the shunning first, you know? How did you think it was going to go?

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#3  by: More to the story   
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There has to be more to the story. What did you think was going to happen? Sorority life is what you make it. Also to all the PNMs it's so easy to make your letters your whole identity. Don't. Make friends is other houses, non greek friends.

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#4  by: Honest   
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Building sisterhood in a sorority with over 400 members is a HUGE issue! The large numbers make it so hard!

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#5  by: Sad   
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While it's true that you can't become close to all 400 girls, certainly you can become close to a few.

It's sad when you can't even do that. The problem isn't with the sorority. The problem is with the op.

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by: WellJul 10, 2016 8:38:49 PM

to be fair to her it sounds like she was at least close with one. I don't know. I think a lot of times girls don't fall through the cracks in the sense that they don't get a bid at all but they think a sorority is right for them and then a year or two in they realize they don't really have anything in common with the other members. I'm sure it happens more than we like to think because we like to tell ourselves to trust the process and the process is always right, etc.

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by: @sadJul 10, 2016 11:24:14 PM

People don't always drop because they couldn't find friends, it sounds like OP had quite a few. Sorority's are a huge commitment of both your money and your time and if you're not enjoying yourself the way you imagined it could become no longer worth the time/money.

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#6  by: the truth   
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No one likes a quitter. That's it.

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#7  by: XXXX   
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You're not in the sorority anymore. Were they supposed to bake you a cake or something? You made your decision. Now deal with it.

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