what's it really like to be unhoused? differences?
by: Nervous PNM
I'm a freshman girl who has a great GPA and was involved with a lot of activities in high school. Looks-wise...I'd say I'm cute and normal sized and I dress well and do my make up. Just so you guys can get a picture.
However, rush has not been going like I had hoped it would. In this most recent round most of the sororities I got invited back to were unhoused...so I feel like there is a good chance that if I end up with a bid I'll be in an unhoused chapter. I'm not saying I'm not open to potentially joining an unhoused group...it just wasn't what I was expecting and I have some questions.
I was wondering...what is it REALLY like to be in an unhoused sorority? How much does having a house actually matter? What's the real difference from sorority members? Housed girls, do you feel like you are getting a much better experience than your unhoused friends? Unhoused girls, do you ever regret going unhoused? Also, will the unhoused sororities ever get houses? I think someone told me they were saving for them...do you think it will happen?
I wanted to ask these questions and get real answers during rush...but I'm too shy to ask because I don't want anyone to think I'm putting them down or that I'm not open to joining their house. I need to start trying to wrap my head around this and that's why I feel like I need these answers. Thanks!
Commentby: Nervous PNM
Thank you, that really helps! I've been feeling really awkward about it because I don't mean it in a bad way. I'm leaning toward joining if I get a bid because I think I might regret not at least trying it out...but I still feel like I have to ask these things before I make my mind up completely.
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#2by: honest truth
I was in a housed chapter and I hated living in the house. Not because I didn't like my sisters but because I hated the lack of personal space. I hated the small closets. I hated the cold dorm. it made me sick all the time and I could never sleep in there. I was able to live out and I loved it. I can assure you that a house does not define a sisterhood. I felt closer to my sisters because I finally felt well, was rested and was able to hang out when I wanted to.
If you want sisterhood, social events, and leadership potential you will find that in an unhoused chapter. I have friends who were/are in unhoused chapters and they feel like they have had equally great experiences to their friends in housed chapters.
Good luck! :-)
#3by: IU Active
I'm a senior in a housed chapter...but I have close friends in unhoused chapters.
The idea of cold dorms freaked me out during recruitment and I also am a more private person so I was happy to get into a house that doesn't have cold dorms. I like living in my sorority house and having a single. However, it's not all roses and there are numerous times when I get annoyed about living in the house as well.
It's not as if the unhoused sororities don't live together. My friends in the unhoused chapters do live with their sisters...just in apartments and houses, not a sorority house. That seems really fun to me as well. I would have been down for that, and I think that that also forms strong bonds between sisters.
What I think is important to understand is that, even though it may seem like we are all super close during recruitment, it is unrealistic to be close to every sister in your sorority. You'll get to know them all and you will get along and respect and love one another, but this idea that you're all close because you're living under one roof is false. Friend groups will and do form, and I think therefore that the unhoused sororities don't actually have any realistic disadvantage because of their housing situation. Like I said, living in apartments/houses with sisters sounds fun to me, and these girls get really close with one another as well.
A house does not make a home. Your home will be with your sisters, but you don't need a sorority house to feel at home with them
by: this is beautiful
#4by: Other campuses
My biological sister goes to another school that does not have ANY sorority houses. She has the same experience there that our unhoused chapters have here. She loves it! As stated above, there is so much more that you get out of membership beyond what actually goes on in the "house". That should not deter you from pursuing a great experience.
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by: Truth
You can say something like "I really like the bond I see between the sisters here, but I have a couple questions first." And then ask. If you're genuine about possibly joining and not just trying to be an ass it'll be fine.
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