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I love the concept of Greek Life, but going through recruitment this year showed me how flawed the system is. Parading girls around the town and having stiff conversations for 15 minutes means nothing. It is HEAVILY based on looks, if you party, and how cool you appear. There were MANY wonderful girls that I met that didn't get in because they weren't freshmen, or didn't look like a stereotypical sorority girl, or were quieter. As somebody who used to suffer from clinical depression last year and wanted to start over, I really am wary about the system. I have recovered, but someone in my shoes from last year could take a huge blow to their self-esteem when all they want is to make friends. It was still very painful for me hearing that I wasn't good enough when all I (and the 800 girls that dropped) wanted was friendship.

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I went through the process this year and it ruined me. Every single house that I loved dropped me. My confidence has dropped immensely through this process. I wish so much that things could've went differently because I have been dreaming of joining a sisterhood since I was young. I'm a sophomore so I had expected it to be more difficult for me, but at the end of the day nothing worked out as I hoped. It breaks my heart even more to imagine all the other girls who feel just as awful as I do. I am very happy for all of the other girls that have found their place. But I really wish I could've been one of them.

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I 100% agree. I don't know what to say, all I know is this process really hurt my self esteem. I just wish I knew what it is about me certain houses didn't like. I thought for sure I would get one of the houses I liked since I really felt as though I clicked with about 5 or 6 of them but nope I ended up eventually getting dropped by all of them and left with only the few houses I just couldn't see myself in. It's just a tough position because you can't help but then compare yourself to the girls who got into one of the houses you like, it's just very frustrating.

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But coming on this website is most definitely not going to help your self esteem and un the end is just going to make you more upset

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No one made you rush. period. end of story. If you don't like the system, start a new house...sounds like there are 800 girls that would be willing to join. No hating on you, I understand that the process is kinda effed up. But if you don't like it, stop complaining and BE the change you want to see.

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Why drop out when you could join a hour and make it better with a bunch of other girls. It is flawed. Big time. But pumping up the egos of the girls in what people think are top houses is just adding to the problem but I know how you feel its the worse start of the year but you will find a group of good people - don't think you have to be greek to be in a close group of friends!

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Get over it everyone and grow up. The selection process here is the same as it is at every other big school. If you chose to drop out of recruitment then the responsibility is solely yours for not getting into a sorority. You decided not to give your remaining houses a fair chance. Welcome to college. You don't get what you want just by showing up. Every single sorority has something to offer to its members and almost always everyone ends up in exactly the house they should. If you didn't finish the process then stop complaining and move on. if you didn't get your first choice chances are that you have ended up in the right house and will end up loving it in a matter of days.

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I think I might try again in spring or next fall as a sophomore

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It is heartbreaking to hear how some of the girls on here are devastated that they didn't get the house they wanted. I know for a fact each year sdt and aopi are desperate for girls but they are "hot". Please please consider burying your pride and go out for cob for one of those houses. Those girls have such a tough time during recruitment because pnms are straight MEAN to them so of course you might not click with them. Trust me, if not being in a sorority is breaking your heart please consider joining a group of girls who won't judge you for your looks

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It's true, I'm in a lower tier sorority and tons of girls were super rude to us during recruitment but to all the sweet girls who gave us a chance we are so excited to have you. <3

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I went through recruitment 2 years ago. I thought I KNEW what my top houses should have been! Guess what-they dropped me! Horror, shock, disappointment! I was ready to drop and called my mom crying because I felt let down. She said what everyone else was saying-give them a chance, go in with an open mind, see what the girls are really like. I did and when bid day game I was not really thrilled with my bid house. Again, mom said-give them a chance (I could always drop out). Guess what-I LOVE MY HOUSE!! I have the BEST sisterhood, friends and family I could ever ask for. Are we a top house, not according to the rankings but we are in our hearts. I wouldn't change a thing!
Girls who dropped-give it another try. Go in with a new purpose, not to get in a top house but to find the top house for you!

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What house did you end up in?

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by: Daisy   

great example of sisterhood!

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I don't understand what makes a house top - middle or bottom tier....are sorority rankings are only based on looks or whether you party or not? Popularity?? Mean girls?

The fact of the matter is.... if the only thing you have to offer is your appearance.. good luck.

Out in the real world. It doesn't work that way. It's about relationships and connections and I can tell you.. most beautiful women get eaten alive. Looks fade but true friendships last a lifetime... look at the CEO's of companies, doctors, lawyers, bankers..they run our world. Look a little deeper and long term.

Good luck to the top tier.. you will be sitting alone when you need a friend.

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