should i join a sorority?
by: Pnm?I really just want to find my place and my people if that makes sense. In high school, I never really found "my people" so to speak. I wasn't super unpopular and I had friends I'd hang out with but I just never felt like I connected with anyone. I always felt like they'd rather be with someone else and I really only had two friends I could actually open up to but even then I couldn't tell them everything. I was involved in clubs and theatre in school, and it seems like everyone else in my clubs found their place in them but I just never felt that way. I was thinking a sorority might be good for me because it seems to be based more on values and personality than just a common interest or skill. Obviously there's cuts for grades and looks but I think I'm pretty solid there (skinny white brunette nominated for Best Dressed superlative in my high school, 3.5 GPA). Not top, but I'm not super worried about it. What I am worried about is making friends within the sorority. I'm pretty shy and even though a sorority is based more on personality than other clubs I'm worried about cliqueyness in a group that size. Will I be able to find close friends?
#1by: Truth
Commentby: phibaby
It's people like this that either didn't get into the top house or isn't even in a sorority. Or perhaps you were dropped from your house. Regardless, top houses are ranked based upon the amount of girl who want to join, and how they maneuver the greek community. You think fake people would be popular to the greek community? Probably not. Try to not be so judgmental when it comes to other sororities that you are not a member of.
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by: Haha
Or maybe it comes from overhearing how sisters talk about one another in class, what your back babes these “sisters” just want your followers
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#2by: truly
To be honest, you should just try sorority recruitment. You are bound to make at least some friends. You will be so much happier if you at least try it rather than going through your freshman year knowing you could have been a part of a sorority. College is your opportunity to become what you weren't in high school, so you might as well try it1
by: extensive
The sororities here have very large new member classes, so please do not expect to be close and lifelong friends with each and every single women in your chapter. I have faith you will able to form sisterly associations with women who share you tastes, talents and interests. And you ca't belong if you don't try!
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#3by: phibaby
In my experience, I have found some of my closest friend through rush and grow closer to the older members every day. Do not base it on looks, rather the house you feel like you'd be comfortable kicking your shoes off at the front door. That is what my Rho Gammas (basically the sorority women leading you through the recruitment process) told me when I was struggling to decide on a house. The women I have met after joining my sorority have been some of the most hardworking, dedicated, accepting people ever. They push you to be your best, pursue leadership opportunities, excel at school (which really isn't a choice because there is a GPA requirement specific to each sorority and you will miss out on amazing and fun activities and events if you don't). The sisterhood events, social events, and other activities you're able to participate in afterwards are very time consuming, but so worth it in the end. Leadership opportunities will fly at you like no other, and listen when I say, try for them. Not only will it help your resume, but it will keep you more involved and hands on in the greek community. You will also become so much closer to fraternities, and learn where you feel the most at home and comfortable with. Right off the bat, you will already be closer with you Pledge Class as they went through the whole process with you, but the ladies above you take the time and effort to get to know you as well as when you find your greek family. Big's and Little's are the best way to find someone to look up to while having an older sister to hang and party with, which isn't always a bad thing :) As for the shy portion of your discussion, the greek community is really good at breaking you out of your shell, and giving you confidence. You're constantly under scrutiny by sorority and frat haters, but that is why we stand to show them that we are leaders, we are smart, and we are involved. Best of luck to you love, and seriously consider rushing, if it is not for, then so be it, but don't miss out on the opportunity to find your forever home with a community full of members ready to welcome you home on bid day. Much love, Alpha Phi member.
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by: no
not true. top houses can have just as amazing sisterhoods. just rush and go the house you feel most comfortable in regardless of “tier”
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