seeking deserved answers
by: PKT alumna
I am a very involved PKT alumna- I won't say which chapter for privacy reasons, but I have served as a Chapter Advisor to many Chapters, as a Regional Officer, and even a National Officer, in addition to being a past President of my Alumna Association. I'm keeping these terms general to avoid identifying my GLO. I have also given VERY generous financial support.
My drop dead gorgeous, 4.0, Homecoming Queen, cheer captain, very involved in school and volunteering in the community, polished appearance/fashionable, bubbly, outstanding in every way daughter (who had multiple recs to ALL Chapters) was dropped not only by my GLO, but several others. She ended up in a "less desirable" group. She seems very happy and "loves" her new "sisters", but I am infuriated that all of the time, effort, and dedication to my group was not appreciated. I have been in contact with Nationals, and they said that she should have received a Bid to my house, since she was overly qualified and because of my extensive involvement with my group. So I would like to know-why do you "ladies" blatantly turn your back on such wonderful legacies? I am here seeking answers, and I feel I have a right to know.
#1 by: wow
If you feel that you have a right to know, then call the chapter! Then again, for the sake of your daughters dignity, don't call them and out not only yourself yourself but your daughter as well.
It's not all about 4.0s and involvement! The bottom line is, if she didn't fit in, she wouldn't get a bid!!!!! But with credentials like that, I'm wondering what the reason was that she was dropped from SEVERAL organizations. I'm sure your daughter is a great girl, but maybe there is a reputation issue you didn't know about? Maybe she expressed openly that she "knew" she was going to join your org, therefore other orgs dropped her, and your org didn't really like her attitude, therefore they dropped her as well? There are a million different reasons that she could've been dropped, and no one on Greek Rank can give you a reason! Especially without knowing exactly which sorority you are even talking about in the first place because I'm sure that multiple PKT legacies got dropped and joined another house. But whatever you do, do NOT out your house. Just accept that this happened, and drop it! She doesn't need your organization to be happy! Just because your org was perfect for you doesn't mean it's perfect for her. You may realize through this that her new "less desired" house is really amazing.
If she is happy where she is, then LET IT GO!! It's not your experience. You've already had yours. Let her have hers in her own organization.
Commentby: gpAug 31, 2015 5:55:01 PM
I'm sure it depends on the organization
To the OP, I'm sorry you feel hurt, but I am sure your organization appreciates/appreciated your involvement, and if your daughter is happy in her org, as you say she is, LEAVE IT ALONE. Let HER be happy WHERE SHE IS. That's the important part.
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by: PerhapsSep 1, 2015 1:12:39 PM
by: Texas KATAug 31, 2015 8:41:36 PM
Idk...ever read Greek Chat? There are some crazy moms out there haha. I hope this wasn't my chapter, OP. And I really hope your daughter loves her sorority experience at UT and that eventually you'll come to love it too, just because she does.
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by: I Agree - It's a TrollSep 1, 2015 9:25:33 AM
The reason I agree - only a kid would use PKT. A mom would not because it is a relatively new term.
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by: PKTSep 1, 2015 11:31:12 AM
Is VERY well known, even at other schools. The original article naming PKT and the Big 6 was published in the 70s, and I'm sure this mom pledged after that, so it's really not surprising that she referred to it as PKT, especially if she didn't want to name her specific organization. Not sticking up for her, just saying that there are many alums that proudly say they were "PKT at UT".
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by: Hi! Sep 1, 2015 12:15:27 PM
I know who this woman is, and she truly is a tremendous asset to her sorority. I'm proud to call her a Panahellenic sister. Everything she said about her service to her org and her beautiful DD are true. I know this because I've known her on Greek Chat (GC) for years. We were PMing back and forth, and I suggested she come here for advice since there seems to be more actives on here than on GC (although there are many there too). I think she was embarrassed and wanted to vent to strangers instead of women she's known for years who were just as sure as she was that her daughter would pledge XYZ at UT. I'm sure she will come back and respond/answer questions soon.
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by: Hmmm....Sep 1, 2015 1:09:51 PM
If she is a bigwig in her sorority then she should feel comfortable enough asking the UT chapter advisor for her GLO, who was likely at least minimally aware of which legacies were being dropped, for an honest answer to the question of why her daughter was dropped. This can be done privately. As it is, if you were truly a prominent PKT alumna and your daughter joined a "less desirable" group it probably wouldn't be hard for that group to figure out who you are. And I would think your daughter would be mortified.....
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by: @hiSep 1, 2015 4:53:38 PM
bulls!t. you are the same troll. this is all so stupid and trite. no former national officer would come on here to do this. i think you're just one of those bored greekchat idiots looking for some trouble to stir up. you people are so obsessed with ut now it's ridiculous. go away. sorry you were in a crappy national sorority and your chapter probably closed because it was bottom.
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by: ArrowSep 1, 2015 3:03:43 PM
Maybe she was just trying to say that that/those group(s) are perceived to be "less desirable" groups by people at UT? Not sure but since she put it in quotes, that's what it looks like to me.
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#9 by: September
I can't tell if this post is real or not because the bragging about the accomplishments is ridiculous. Most ut girls are smart, accomplished and extraordinary. And all the sororities have beautiful accomplished women. So if it is true just be happy that you'd daughter is in the school she wants to be in and likes her new sorority.
#10 by: Don't feed the troll
Come on. This is so obviously a troll. Get on a competitive college GR site. Check. Pretend to be a pnm or mom who is upset they/their daughter didn't get into a "top house". Check. Bash the "lower house/s" Check. Post as someone else vouching that you know her/the mom and that "it's all true!" First you have the Alabama ppm post, tthen the disappointed UT mom, and now this. Really?? Stop feeding the troll.
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by: absolutelySep 1, 2015 10:35:47 AM
Unless her definition of "national officer" is "poured punch at convention in 1982."
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