rush regrets

Lol oh god when I got nervous I was like "and I'm really excited for ACL and Zilker and hiking" bAaAaAaaSIC

For me it was more things I DIDNT say. I’m very happy with where I ended up, but I wish I’d talked to my Rho Chi way more because I think it would have made my week so much less stressful. I also wouldn’t have tried to play it cool in the houses I really liked, because as an active I LOVED hearing girls say they were excited to be there and they could see themselves in the house, but as a pnm I was afraid of coming on too strong

I wish I had focused more on where I felt comfortable during rush vs focusing on rank and reputation. I ended up in a house I loved all week so it worked out perfectly in the end but...


I shouldn't have been so upset when a few Big 6 houses cut me because I just didn't fit in there and even though I knew it at the time, my high school was one of the "Big 6 or die" ones and it stung. I was naive to think there was a "Big 6" type of rusher when in reality, the girls in Kappa are different than Zetas and the Pi Phis are different than Thetas and the Chi O's are different than Tri Delts.

And I wish I hadn't entered rush determined to get a Big 6 bid or drop out. How foolish! I have friends in like half the houses and across tiers. I'm grateful I got a big 6 bid because I would have stupidly dropped out and missed out on sorority life. I'm a senior and can honestly say that after your first semester, you realize every house is pretty much the same experience, just different groups of girls.

And if you are nervous, more girls than you realize will understand. I was a nervous wreck the whole way through despite ending up exactly where I wanted. People understand. Especially on that first day, it's completely okay to admit that you are. My best advice is before starting the process, write down everything you're worried about on a little slip of paper, and put that paper aside. By getting it out of your mind, you will feel so much better.

I was so unprepared for the process. Wish I would have talked to some who. Have been through it.

Don't get too preoccupied with having a "perfect rush"! Even though I had a clear favorite from day 1 and ended up getting a bid to that sorority, there were definitely cuts along the way. They definitely stung and I'd get caught up on who did or didn't invite me back, but at the end of the day it doesn't matter where I went on what days because it only takes one house. By no means does that mean to only put in effort at one house, but if you get cut, it's not because you're a bad pnm! I know girls who are in "top" houses who had "bottom" houses on pref night or who got cut by most of the other top tiers.