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When I first decided to rush here, I heard it was a lot less stressful and more chill than in the South. This year with the amount of girls higher than ever, SO many girls ended up being cut or dropping because the only house that asked them back was desperate for members and didn't fit them. In a system where the rho gammas tell you that it's unlikely that you won't get a bid or not get asked back to all three houses during pref, it was so surprising to see so many girls cut... We were told to "trust the system" but why did it fail so many girls this year?

Posted By: Fall201NeverAgain
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Too many rushees for as many sororities as we have. The system of course is flawed but who in their right mind make that known to rushees. I'm very sorry for all the girls who had a negative experience but we are very close to adding another chapter to our campus. Thanks and On Wisconsin

By: answer
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I'm not saying that the system isn't flawed, but it's also a mutual selection process. From what I understand about this year's recruitment, many of the girls who are saying that they were "dropped" were not dropped from the sorority side. They dropped out of their own accord, because they didn't like the houses that they had left. I feel it's unfortunate that many girls don't give certain houses a chance because of reputation or tiers or whatever. I got "dropped" from my favorites before pref. But I gave the houses I had left a chance, because they gave me a chance. And now I couldn't be happier. I definitely ended up in the right sorority for me. Of course, there are some situations in which pnms don't get ANY invitations back. But, again, from what I have heard about this year (and years past), they are few and far between.

By: well...
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Exactly. The system does work, and even though you may not get called back to your top houses, its usually a blessing in disguise. All of the chapters adjusted their quotas so most girls could get bids, but it is on the PNM's who dropped, not the houses. On the bright side, starting next fall there should be a new chapter coming to campus, meaning MORE BIDS 4 ALLLL!!

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by: formersoroityg   

You shouldn't say they didn't give them a chance. Part of the whole sorority experience is living in a house with your sisters. My daughter went back to pref party and did give it a chance but chose to drop because of the house situation. EWould you have pledged a sorority that did not have a chapter house? Probably not.

By: formersoroityg
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Sorority girl & well... are right on. If you had a party or parties left, you were NOT dropped. You made a choice to withdraw. I am sorry if it did not work out as you expected, but you were not completely powerless to the situation.

By: yep
by: formersorority   

The problem also with UW having so few sororities is the ones that are not considered to be the top three are not going to use their picks on someone they think won't want to be in their sorority. You could really like a sorority then they don't ask you back because they assume you would want to be in a top three just on your looks and the way you dress. My daughter had a view of a certain sorority that she thought she would never join and then when she went through rush it was one of her top picks but they did not ask her back to the 2nd round. She went in with an open mind and changed her opinion and really liked it and still didn't get asked back.

By: formersorority
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I'm from the south where sororities are huge. I also heard that it's not as competitive at UW. My daughter is a legacy to two of the nice sororities on campus. She is smart, pretty and had nice conversations at the parties. She was called back the second day and then dropped by both before pref. She was so dejected that she will probably never rush again. I don't know how your system works here, but in my day, if a girl was a legacy, there had to be a HUGE reason for her not to get a bid. I'm so disappointed in your rush and greek system!

By: greekmom
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I'm sorry that your disappointed in our system, but it's the same system used all over the country, including your home of the south. As a fellow greek, you should know that there are almost always more legacies going through rush than a sorority can take. If a sorority feels that they didn't "click" with your daughter during rounds 1 and 2, the "legacy rules" of most sororities require them to cut her before pref. If they pref her, she is automatically on their bid list. As someone already mentioned on this thread, rush is a MUTUAL selection process. Just because your daughter is a legacy doesn't entitle her to a bid. I'm sure her feelings were hurt, but I am surprised that she put all of her eggs in one basket. Despite you inferring otherwise, ALL of the sororities on our campus are "nice" and our greek system is more competitive than most people think. Had she kept an open-mind, she may have found the perfect home. In all honesty, rejection is part of life. She's in college now, and should learn to deal with it because there will definitely be more to come. Finally, before you decide that I am just posting "off the cuff", please know that I've been there. I was a double legacy to a "top" house on campus (both my mother and grandmother were members of that chapter), and they cut me before pref. I was hurt at first, but then realized that I really didn't fit in there anyway. I am now a very happy junior member of another sorority.

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Sorry---My response got cut off by the word limit. Anyway, I guess I would suggest that your daughter just make the most of being at Wisconsin. It's really an awesome school, both academically and socially. The Greek System is just a small part of that. I would encourage her to attend athletic events, accept party invitations and maybe look into a club or two. She'll make friends, and it may help her decide as to whether she'd want to rush again. As I said above, many sophomores who rush (even if it's their second time) have the advantage of already having friends in sororities. Who knows? She may become fast friends with girls from her legacy houses, and may end up rushing and joining one of them after all. Good luck!

By: @greekmom
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What is anyone's thoughts rushing as a junior? Is it worth it?

By: collegegurl

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yeah! you might as well go for it. we've taken a couple girls as juniors. juniors do not count towards quota (which is a good thing) you may get cut more heavily in first rounds and maybe second rounds too but if you really keep an open mind you can get a house and be happy with it!

By: re: collegegurl
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What if I already rushed as a sophomore and as a freshman but dropped out both times, would that reflect badly on me as a potential member. Sorry for all the questions but I really could use some help! And what is spring recruitment like, do a lot of houses do it?

By: collegegurl
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I think that people hearing that Wisconsin is "not a competitive campus" is starting to be unhelpful to PNMs (and their families). It means "not competitive" with respect to, say... Texas or Ole Miss where you HAVE to have at least two references per chapter, attend spring introduction parties/"preview weekend", go to the correct summer camps, etc. It DOES NOT mean that it's not still really competitive to get into certain (or any!) chapters.
The other thing is (as I understand it, anyway) legacy status has really changed a lot in a generation or so. It's not that chapters don't appreciate legacies, it's just that it gets your foot in the door, but that might be it. I'm sure it depends on the organization and chapter. At most large, particularly state school and/or campuses with a long Greek history, there are enough legacies to each chapter to fill their pledge class.
Informal/COB/Spring Recruitment:
I guess you'll have to wait and see if that happens, and what chapters might be participating. The reality is it might be the chapter(s) that you/your daughter didn't feel fit in with. Sophomores do definitely rush at UW, but for any Sophomore rushing, I'd ask them what is different about them this time around? What was their involvement and gpa Freshman year? How much more comfortable are you with rounds of parties and making social connections with sorority women you have just met, how are you presenting yourself, etc. And you have to be prepared for the chance that things..

By: yep
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(sorry, continued. apparently I'm writing a book tonight)
...won't turn out any differently the second time around. But, if you start Sophomore year and want to rush again, go do it! Nothing's stopping you, and you might wonder what would have happened. Sophomores (even re-rushers) do have successful recruitments at UW. Juniors sometimes do, too. And it varies from year to year whether they count in "quota" or not.
Lastly, UW is an awesome campus, and not being Greek certainly won't be any sort of social suicide. My advice to anyone would be to get involved, whether you eventually go Greek or not. Best of luck!

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