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mine is very similar except we don't do that last part. We do, at the end of each day, have a "promo" time where we go around the room and everyone talks about their favorites and tries to encourage other members to meet the PNM they are in love with, which is really asking your friends to all briefly meet her and vote her high.

Also, if my house, if you know a PNM outside of recruitment then you can vote on her even if you don't talk to her during recruitment.

Also, a lof of houses make posters or etc. that advertise their favorite PNM or a good friend going through recruitment.

Similarly, some houses post the reference letters that come in. Usually these letters aren't that informative but to help members focus the conversation to keep the PNM happy.

When possible, in the promo posters and with the reference letters, a picture os posted of the PNM to help focus the conversation.

And what I posted IS true and, yes, a initiated member would disclose this. In fact, I have friends in other houseS, we all shared stories becuase it was interesting to talk about, and all the houses do similar stuff. What the house does also depends on how much effort people want to make, hence some houses don't do this stuff. Also, it can be chapter dependent so that XYZ at Indiana does it but XYZ at UW Madison does not.

@mine

In every sorority I know of, membership selection is a) dictated by nationals (consistent from chapter to chapter) and b) considered part of "ritual" and thus it's supposed to be kept secret. I think it's mostly a secret not because it's actually "ritual" but because they don't want PNMs finding out and getting freaked out on how they're being judged . . . although anybody who thinks about it for more than two seconds should be able to figure out how it works, honestly.

A lot of people don't know it's supposed to be secret and they'll talk about it with other people, though.

Be polite when you naturally bring up the subject. Don't use all caps in your speaking manner: OMGICANTWAITTOJOINYOURHOUSEILOVEYOUGUYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! will not be useful. Don't bug them on a daily basis after you let them know you are rushing, they will know what they have to do and when to get your name known among their sorority sisters. Honest sorority women understand you have a multitude of sorority homes, vying for your kind attention, to choose from and they will not be ashamed of you should you find your home elsewhere.

It's called sorority recruitment, and only the fully initiated members of a home are allowed to know the full process.

You can be curious forever, but we've said it a couple of times you are not allowed to know if you are not a member.

Now is when the question is on your mind, see if you can ease into a convo before school dismisses is May. Some houses have a "no contact with pnms" policy over summer, so as soon as logically possible before then will be fine.

You are always wearing your letters. 24/7. 365/366 days a year. Your friends may be available to help you anytime. Why wait? As the song lyrics go: RIGHT NOW c'mon it's everything.