aphi rush pdf?
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Comment#35by: Never Dies
As long as memory remains to us, we will remember Alpha Phi. Oops! Did I just give away a line from the Alpha Phi Ritual. Yes. I. Did. Eat it, Alpha Phi. You suck. Hi Renee! Hope you like what you've created. Your strategy is a national disgrace. Have fun explaining this to all the other middle-aged ladies at National Panhellenic.
#37by: The PDF
—Greek Life relieves us of that daunting adjustment. As young American women go through sorority rush, meet girls, and build connections, we search for comfort, and we trust the girls whom we like to get along with other girls we will like. We count on them to select a pledge class of sixty-something like-minded individuals who might give us the security that we are so searching for. In a few short weeks, sixty of the 7,000 are cherry-picked for us, and we are hopeful that some of them will become our best friends in this community that innately demands a strong sense of “sisterhood.” This unfamiliar place might start to feel like a second home sooner than we can imagine. It’s enticing, isn’t it?
And, for some, that temptation is defined by more than that wish for solace and belonging. Sororities recruit similar individuals, and, with that, they gain collective reputations that are then highlighted in red and planted on the foreheads of the individuals who join them. Like any system, there is a hierarchy in those reputations, and we are thus placed us on a level that can help define our feelings about our social worth in the eyes of ourselves and others. Being favorably recognized as a member of a "top" house can make us feel socially regarded as elite or important, and that recognition as part of something good or bad can make us feel good or bad for no good reason at all.
_______ was a senior in Beta Delta when I was a freshman. In a sorority of over 200 girls, it takes commitment and interest—that most of us, frankly, cannot be bothered with—to get to know every sister on a personal level. As a freshman, I knew everyone in my own pledge class and most of the girls in the pledge class above me, but, as a busy student, connecting with over 200 girls exceeded my social priority. I would guess that I knew, or at least knew of, a combined total of about forty juniors and seniors in Beta Delta. I would have walked right past _________ on the street.
#38by: The PDF
I did, however, recognize her name, and I had a positive sentiment towards Katie. She was a sister of my chapter, and, therefore, I could trust that I should feel connected to her in some small way. After all, she and her friends recruited the juniors, who recruited the sophomores, who recruited my friends and me.
It wasn’t until my junior year, however, two years after “senior member” had graduated, that I was forced to connect with her on a personal level. She had reached out to the other recruitment chairs of Beta Delta and me to enthusiastically recommend a freshman at the University of Michigan to our chapter: her younger sister. We offered immense gratitude and excitement that _______—and two other members of her pledge class, including a former chapter president—had contacted us about the freshman sister, and we assured them that she would have an especially wonderful experience while rushing Beta Delta.
As a national organization that was founded with values including sisterhood, leadership, loyalty, and character development, it is assumed that those values should be reflected in our recruiting process. We spend weeks planning for recruitment parties to ensure that every young woman going through recruitment at Beta Delta feels important and desired. We know that girls come to us seeking security and development during an unsettling time, and we exist to give them just that. We honor tradition. We honor legacy. We expect that we will always help a fellow sister, and we will always want the best for all sisters of Beta Delta. We care for and look out for each other—especially for those at our own University of Michigan Chapter of Beta Delta.
We received three letters from girls whom we knew that recommended the pnm to Beta Delta. Her legacy status as an in-house-biological-sister was noted on her recruitment profile and well-ingrained into the brains of the recruitment team at the University of Michigan. However, despite this knowledge, despite her sister’s contribution to our sisterhood, and despite the fact that these recommendations for a legacy came from the very girls whom we trusted to find us our own sisters—and thus lead us to the college experience that would bring us so much joy as to inspire us to direct the recruitment process—The pnm was not invited back to the third or final rounds of recruitment parties at Beta Delta. And she didn’t just slip through the cracks.
So, why would we ever intentionally drop her? Why would we betray a sister for no reason at all? Why would our advisor from Beta Delta’s national organization allow us—or even instruct us—to do so?
#39by: The PDF
During my sophomore year, the recruitment chairs of Beta Delta took themselves quite seriously in a way that I found both laughable and unsurprising as they told us that we had been scored, and that we would need to score girls, on a 1-10 scale of "how well the PNM fits into Beta Delta," 1 being the lowest, 10 being the highest.
They said that this process of "Chapter Scoring" was confidential because it was prohibited by to Panhellenic bylaws, but they assured us that everybody did it. How else were all of the houses expected to keep track of so many girls? They explained it to us as necessary in helping each PNM find her home, and it was not meant to be malicious. Besides, it was the process that had connected us to a community of similar girls and had brought every single one of us to our closest friends.
As soon as PNMs left the Beta Delta house, the sisters would score us on that 1-10 scale, recap our conversation, and write down the name of a sister whom we were similar to in order to ensure that we would all meet like-minded individuals and have the best recruitment experience possible. It wasn’t all that personally upsetting for us to hear because we all knew that we must have been high on the “how well does she fit in” scale, and that shared, comfortable energy allowed us to feel alright about the fact that we, too, would have to score girls. The scoring process ensured that no one would slip through the cracks, recruitment would run efficiently, and everyone would end up in the best-fit chapter for them. The recruitment chairs assured us that it wasn’t evil—it was essential.
But, they chose their words carefully. The recruitment chairs constantly reminded us that no one gets a score of “zero,” because every girl going through recruitment would fit in on some level. They drilled it into our heads, over and over again, that we were scoring girls on how much they reminded us of our current sisters rather than valuing them on our perceived quality of their individual character. It wasn’t offensive because giving a girl a score of 4/10 wasn’t declaring that she was a 4/10 individual, it was only suggesting that she would get along better with girls in a different chapter of our community.
#40by: The PDF
I realized that appearances factored into my decision-making even when I was not consciously admitting that to myself. I never would have allowed myself to even think, "I'm giving her a 4 even though the conversation was fine because she's not pretty enough to be in this house." I never would have admitted that the only reason I gave that girl whom I had a boring conversation with an 8 was because she was beautiful.
And now, a year later, I was telling the sophomores to score PNMs on a 1-10 scale of "how well the PNM fit into Beta Delta," knowing those scores to be completely meaningless.
I learned that Chapter Scores were only a mask: a way to avoid telling everyone what they subconsciously already partially knew. Beta Delta's national policy demanded that our decision to invite girls to the second round was determined completely independently of their time spent at Beta Delta. It was determined by their "External Prescores" weeks before sorority recruitment even began.
And so it goes: 1,200 names fall off recruitment profiles and into the Facebook search bar, where we must ask a series of important questions, created by nationals, of her public photos that will determine her "External Prescore" on a scale of 1-10.
1. Is she naturally pretty?
2. Does she look like your current sisters?
3. Is she trendy?
4. Would you want to see her in your letters?
10: She's "ideally beautiful"―thin with silky hair, great style, and an appealing face―and therefore we want her in Beta Delta.
1: She is definitely not "pretty enough" to be in this chapter.
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