sophomore rushing

No. Just no. Let's be honest and real with each other. Despite the three weeks of rounds, you cannot really judge "fit" from the superficial phase or even Bid Day. Give yourself and your sorority a chance. It will take time to get to know each other. You put their name down, so that indicated you liked them well enough, even if they weren't your first or even second choice. Some girls may have had only one choice! They were the ONE who gave you the courtesy of a bid...not the others. Show some respect back by not dumping out so early unless there is some grave reason this match was a mistake. Maybe you didn't dream you'd get your last choice? But you did. If you knew this wasn't a fit, you should have had the courage to leave them off your list. Realize your bid takes a spot away from someone else who may have gotten cut completely or would be thrilled with your spot. Don't be fickle. Give it time. Chances are you'll discover some wonderful future friends and those who fought for you. Hopefully your "fit" concern isn't based on some imaginary ranking or tier. Remember--just because a banana is pretty and blemish-free on the outside, it can be bitter and hard on the inside. Other bananas have a few bruises and don't look as perfect, but on the inside, they are sweet and just right. That's your "Mom" Wisdom for the night.

If you re-rush next year everyone will know that you took a bid this year then dropped. Unless you have a really good reason, that will not look good to most houses. Give the girls a shot. Go with them to the game this weekend. This is probably your best shot.

I have no idea, but I'd think it doesn't happen a lot...maybe more like a handful of times. There are no absolutes. You may try again if you like, but those with experience within the system Are telling you rushing a second time (especially by those who dropped from a house after accepting a bid) may have an even harder time. Listen to them, but if you are tough-skinned and don't mind the stress of rushing again next fall, go for it. Maybe after a year on campus and getting to know yourself and others better, you'll find your "better fit." Or...you could just get to know your sorority sisters and in no time at all you'll wonder why you were worried and be thankful you are in the same pledge class as your graduating class of sisters. I think that is a nice thing to keep in mind. Embrace your group, help make them even stronger with your membership (if that's your concern), and, now, go study! That's what your parents would rather you do, I'm certain.