Who didn’t make quota?

So mom the reality is...your daughter was dropped from the good houses and your on greek rank looking for why??? The tiers shake out. If your daughter dropped ADPi and SK but would like AOPi - AOPi and that tier dropped her during rush... AOPi, AXID, AXO, Zeta, Gamma Phi... COB is not for her. Rush is 1x a year and it's a process for a reason. Your daughter wants houses that she didn't honestly get into...she wouldn't fit into. Rush is not stressful pref night...you should have 2 houses you want. If your dropped...a lot of dis ussion goes into rush. If your daughter only wants certain houses - she needs to find a new club. Reality. Her mom being on greek rank...

You said she doesn’t want any of the chapters doing COB… why?

If your daughter is just looking to be in a sorority to wear certain letters then sorority life is not for her. Join a sorority for the friendships, the support, the leadership, the the philanthropy, etc. Don’t join because you want to look or seem a certain way. Any of the sororities on this campus are great chapters that give the full sorority experience, and if you’re rejecting chapters based on popularity then you’re not joining a sorority for the right reasons.

If she wants those things, try COB. If she wants to chase one set of letters, this isn’t for her.

Thanks for explaining that fall rush is just more COB. My guess is by spring of sophomore year her desire to be in a sorority will dissipate anyway as I see sororities as more of a freshman/ sophomore thing anyway. We’ll see. Definitely not into SK or ADPi- she’d rather just be unaffiliated and will probably travel abroad junior year anyway.

Bigggggg yikes everything mom said here makes it seem like she was only joining a sorority for popularity/socials…. Honestly good thing she doesn’t want to do COB tbh chapters don’t need members like that

That’s good to know that more houses offer COB in the spring. She has a few friends from her rush group/floor that pledged. We’ll see if the friendships hold up and maybe I’ll suggest that she puts feelers out next fall.

My comment about sorority’s being mostly a freshman and sophomore thing relates to my own experience in college in a sorority. I know that by senior year most kids really didn’t care and with a semester abroad it seems like she’d have really a year if she rushed in the spring. I also feel like 1.5 years is a long time to make social groups outside a sorority- we will see.

If my daughter joins, she will only take a sorority that she feels comfortable with. Its got to be both ways and she’s not going to join a place that she doesn’t feel comfortable being a part of.

mom u should tell ur daughter to listen to snapped the podcast it’s about greek life and it would help her a lot

I think this post gotta out of hand. Mom should have asked her daughter questions before she posted on greek rank. I'm in a sorority, went abroad a semester... I'm into my sorority junior and senior year.

Mom - my best advice - a girl on my abroad program didn't get into a good sorority and it bothered her... why me and not her? She brought it up to me a few times. A girl who this happened to... was on my dorm floor too...it honestly made us feel uncomfortable. My honest opinion...are a bunch of sororities in tiers... top 4, low top 2, solid mids... 6 houses... if you did NOT click during rush w any of the houses - your not a click. The reasons vary... its awkward for the girls in the houses. I suggest your daughter either moves on... she wasn't a click for the houses she wanted. Or does cob. Because even if 1 girl likes you...the whole house has to decide and if you were cut during rush you were already discussed out loud by the girls in the house. Its awkward!

I suggest your daughter finds a club ... debate, mock trial, dorm friends, sports clubs, internships... focus on friends who are not in greek life and make a life there. Snapped girl made such a big deal she felt awkward out. I've seen girls re rush and it's the same tears and awkwardness.... trust me if you been through rush...you've been discussed. This post is awkward. This whole thing awkward... once a girl feels awkward and rejected...it seems to snowball

some of y’all acting real high and mighty like you didn’t at least consider the ‘tiers’ of the sorority you joined. maybe her daughter didn’t think she fit in at the houses everyone is suggesting she COB, what’s wrong with that??? and then people on here talking about the ‘looks’ of the girls in other sororities? y’all are sick and embarrassing. but I will give y’all this, you’re right, her daughter shouldn’t rush because clearly y’all are toxic - she’d be better off.

This whole post is awkward. I don't think anyone acting high and mighty... a mom on greekrank is awkward... why her daughter dropped certain houses and wanted others... part of rush. I'm in a sorority and had girls in my dorm and either went through rush or maybe we had 2 spots and when she came through... I liked her... but my house didn't think she was a fit. We have had girls who had best friends who the house didn't want and its awkward for the girl who suggested her. I agree - it gets awkward. The reality is if you go through rush... within tiers or types of houses...are a few that are similar or similar enough... so if you didn't click during rush w 2 or 3 houses you wanted - i agree - it becomes awkward. Rush didn't go your way. This is how the snapped podcast happened, this is articles written...once you become angry and bitter... life isn't fun. The snapped podcast that keeps on going after she graduated... it was through her lens...she not only was miserable- she went on and on. Like this post...its life. Sometimes you don't make the softball or soccer varsity team, you weren't voted class president, you didn't date the guy you wanted and your friend did or a girl you hate ... its the hard part of life. How one deals with these things...shapes you. If my sorority didn't work out the way I did, my philosophy personally- I would have told myself...maybe this will help anyone reading this... not meant to be...let me find a club or activity that is meant to be and rock it.

Rush is emotional and heartbreaking when it doesn't go your way. I get the try... but mom you should have asked your daughter where she dropped before going on greek rank and starting this thread. I'm in a sorority and every girl is discussed before we drop anyone or put them on our A, B, C list. If your daughter was dropped - she wasn't a fit for the house.