Who didn’t make quota?
by: QuestMy daughter is looking at COB process but is too heartbroken to reach out. Wondering who didn’t make quota?
Comment#6by: yes
You're the sweetest mama for reaching out and trying to help your daughter! I know delta gamma and aopi are doing cob (i heard aopi is but im not entirely sure but i know dg is). tell her to talk to her friends in sororities because those will be the girls vouching for her and filling out recommendations to be in their respective chapter. if not that, then she can always contact pha (either on instagram @umdpha or email which is on the pha website).
This is how it will go:
1. girls in the chapter need to fill out a form to advocate for her
2. the girls who have forms filled out for them will be sent an email saying the respective chapter is interested in them and will ask for her availability to go on a "coffee date" which is just talking to a member.
3. coffee date happens. this is probably the most low-stress, easy environment. dont worry about the 5 b's, you can genuinely be yourself
4. the sister who talked to her will go back to the chapter and discusses with other sisters whether or not she should get a bid. 99% of the time the answer is yes.
5. An email is sent to the girl, your daughter in this case, saying she either did or didnt receive a bid.
after that depends on the chapter. let me know if you have any other questions and I hope all goes well for your daughter!
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by: yes
A girl i know in it said they might be but not sure. I guess they aren't then my mistake
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by: Sad
Sad...what the mom just admitted is that her daughter cut the bottom tier. Her daughter was cut from the houses she wanted. This isn't a greek rank thread. This is a mom and her daughter needing to accept rush... where her daughter fit in isn't where she wanted to be.
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by: lol
#7by: Hmmmm
Your daughter will have best luck w sk or adpi.
If AOPi doing it...it will be girls who girls in the chapter know and are friends with already. Probably didn't rush and drop or were dropped. Girls who go AOPi do well during rush. Im.not sure this is a real mom or mom/daughter but if daughter heartbroken... I'm guessing rush didn't go well? SK or ADPi is probably where she fits. But a coffee date w 1 sister and you get a bid??? What house gives a bid to a girl after meeting once? I've never heard of that. Usually rounds and a few girls.
#8by: COB
I was a COB and at the time I emailed the PHA VP of recruitment and just let her know I was interested. The houses then directly reached out to me and invited me to events. DO NOT as the parent email, that not only will embarrass your daughter but none of the college aged girls will want to communicate through a parent and doing that could lose her the opportunity to participate.
by: Agreed
Your daughter is and adult and needs to take responsibility for herself if she really wants it! Additionally I hate to break it to u and her but her chances are kinda slim if she has already been dropped :(
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by: Agreed
Your daughter is and adult and needs to take responsibility for herself if she really wants it! Additionally I hate to break it to u and her but her chances are kinda slim if she has already been dropped :(
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#9by: Quest
My daughter is doing better and is thinking now of waiting until next fall. For those that thought I would reach directly out, I wouldn’t, I just wanted to give my daughter ideas. She dropped the two houses that I know are doing COB SK and ADPii during rush. I asked her to reach out to the VP of PHA recruitment to see if there are others. She did like AOII. That was a great suggestion to reach out BTW but she says right now she doesn’t feel like it and doesn’t want to appear desperate. She wants to feel confident before trying to rush again. Is fall rush similar to spring rush?
by: COB
Fall rush is the same COB process currently happening. I would strongly suggest she give it a try this spring. All of the sororities doing this right now will likely be the same ones that are in the fall. Rush is a crazy experience with so many emotions. Having a more low key chance to talk to these sororities might change her mind.
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by: Agree
Your daughter doesn't appear desperate...you and her want a sorority she got cut from during rush. Truth?
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by: ?
Her mom is on greek rank... I hear you on giving ideas..but you weren't honest. The truth is your daughter went through rush, got dropped from houses she wanted - dropped houses she didn't want - you and she felt heartbroken this happened. An AOPi isn't going to take a girl who got dropped during rush... they would have gotten into another house. Sure...some girls say DG has some pretty girls but they didn't feel comfortable. If your pretty w a personality - you want a more chill house you would go AOPi or AXO or phi sig or zeta even. Personality counts. Sometimes houses have to pay rent.... have to take extra who dont fit in. But the girls dont fit. If your friends w a girl in theta or AOPi or AXO and you chose not to go through rush... some girls don't...that's who get picked up in those houses.
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#10by: ????
If your daughter rushed and chose to drop sk and adpi...fall will be the same. If your daughter isn't into those 2 sorority's? Did she get cut from DG too? If she got cut from DG - is preferring an AOPi she isn't going to make it. Girls who chase a house they don't naturally fit in...don't fit in. No pledge class to be part of - the fun part of being in a sorority. Its great to be a mom and care but rush is a process. Its only stressful is you don't get into houses you want to be in. By pref night you should have 2 sororities your proud to be in - you want and want you. If your daughter doesn't want sk or adpi...the reality is...as harsh as this sounds... sorority is not her fit and she should look for another activity...club to join. AOPi would only invite girls who are friends w girls in the house or didn't rush? Not were dropped. The tiers shake out....
by: Yep
Sounds like Sorority Life isn't a good fit.
Many people want certain houses but the reality is they won't fit into those houses which is why they are cut. Adpi, DG, Deeph, SK are all great houses but if she doesn't want them and the others houses cut her, there isn't anything left for her. Fall will be the exact same. Rush can be a hard reality check for some people.
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by: ?
I dont think embarrassing per say... I think a mom/daughter duo where rush didn't go the way SHE wanted and your looking for options. COB is the houses your daughter didn't want. Your daughter dropped from houses she wanted. You both need to move on or say...I fit in at sk or adpi...I'm going to be happy and rock it. It's not a confidence thing...its an acceptance thing.
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