Dashboard (i guess) for rush advice

It's natural to get caught up in a lot of superficial things especially if you are active on this site, but seriously really think about how much money joining a sorority actually is and how its just not worth it to pay dues just to be surrounded by a bunch of girls you deem "popular" and pretty just to be miserable.

I'm in a "top tier sorority" and I've met some of my best friends in it, but there's also the toxic other side where people can be so obsessed with status and looks. There is a lot of competition between tops to recruit the same girls, but at the end of the day it's true that everyone socials with each other within the same tier. No one at the end of the day cares what tier you are in. It's important to take a step back from all of the madness of recruitment and ask yourself why you want to join x sorority. Not worth it if your actual answer is just because the girls are pretty and nice to you (cause everyone in every house is going to be nice to you)

I'm a senior in a top tier sorority living w my bestie from my sorority and my dorm bestie who is in AXO and her best friend from AXO.

I love my best friend but would NOT choose to hang w her friends and she is not that comfortable hanging with my sorority friends. Although best friends - like different social clicks. Truth.

I wouldn't change a thing. To be honest - rush went smoothly no stress. I clicked a a lot of houses, preffed 2 top choices and have been happy. My AXO friend liked different houses during rush. We are both happy in our choices and our social cliques honestly don't mix. She honestly likes my friends in my house - my friends are nice to her but don't like her friends to hang out with as much. Honestly- there is not much mixing for a reason. It's hard because rush does not always go everyone's way. My best advice - go where you like the girls. I do not feel the girls in my house are toxic. I have my click and am happy in my click.

For people with houses they don’t love left:

Keep going through recruitment. Keep meeting more members. You’re making a judgement based on less than a half hour of total conversation with around 5% of chapter members. Chapters have such a mix of personalities and interests that you’re bound to find a group of friends and have a good college experience in almost any chapter.

You might fall in love with your chapter when you first walk into the house during values round…. or it might take longer.

Personally, I cried on bid day. I wanted to go home, drop the sorority, and never come back. But I gave it a chance. That first semester, I went to new member meetings and bonded with my PC, met girls in the chapter at socials I didn’t meet during recruitment, and built friendships I never thought I would find. I went from thinking of disaffiliating to being on my chapter’s exec board within in a year, just by giving it a chance.

If it’s not for you, it’s totally okay, don’t force it. But, don’t make snap judgements. Give it time.

Interesting...I pretty much hang out with just the girls in my sorority. I have friends in other houses but most girls I know - join a sorority and make a group of friends and hang with their sorority. In the bars...sure houses mingle but whatever sorority you join, if your happy in it, that's your social scene.

I don't think people are obsessed with tiers. But I agree w the 1 post - whatever sorority you join - you'll spend your social life with your sorority. All the girls I know are the closest to the girls in their sorority. In the bars...girls hang in groups by sororities.

I'm in Tridelt, 1 of my best friends is in theta - we are still good friends but we both hang and live with girls in our houses. I agree - whichever house you get - that's your social group. At bars we are friendly and mixing but overall - you will spend the majority of the time with the girls in your house. You need to pick a sorority where you like the girls.

When I went through rush - I chose houses where I connected to the girls. I found some houses I had nothing to say to the girls and other houses - I had great conversations. On bid day- when I met my pledge class - I instantly connected with a few girls who are my best friends still.

When you go through rush - visual is step 1. All about - who you easily talk too.

My take... girls choose a sorority your excited to be in and wear your letters and spend most of your social feee time. Because girls on here to me are NOT painting an accurate picture. I had friends from dorm I am friends with - BUT i hang out with girls in my sorority. I've lived in my house and an off campus apt - w sorority sisters. You'll eat w your sisters mostly because your paying dues at the house to eat... in class if sorority sisters are in your class - that's who you'll sit with, wknd parties you'll hang out with your sorority, bars you'll hang out with your sorority. Every girl has friends in other houses or outside of the greek system - who you'll spend time with is your sorority. If you do not get a bid to a house you want to be in - drop!!! But also socially- less to do so a house you may desire who didnt pick you - dont judge another house so quickly. Socially being in a sorority fun! You'll want girls to tailgate and go to bars with. If you desire a certain frat guy - you can meet a guy out?

PNMs a UMD alum made a podcast ab recruitment and sororities and is releasing a 3-part recruitment special, it’s called snapped and the newest episode is called “trust the process.” it’s worth listening to if you’re struggling whether to continue

Do not listen to snapped! That girl snapped and still goes on and on. Rush honestly shouldn't be that stressful- you'll find a fit. Look for a few houses you like and 1 should work out. Being in a sorority is fun!!!