ucla sorority reality check
by: realchic
The incredibly cruel and horrible comments being written this week about our UCLA sorority community is truly disheartening. There seems to be an overinflated obsession among some of these individuals about the importance and relevance of being a sorority considered in the “Top 5”. Time for a reality check here. I went through the rush process at UCLA twice and joined a “upper mid-tier” house as a soph.
I learned a lot about the process after my first year about unrealistic expectations and the true reasons I wanted to be in a sorority. Sisterhood, friendship and support.
sorority rush at UCLA is super competitive. Each house takes 60+ PMN’s and there are over 1000+ rushing. Only 360 girls will get in to the “Top 5”. This group includes legacy’s, soph/jrs and transfer.
I was disappointed my first year when I did not get asked back to my top choice. I did not spend enough time getting to know the other great houses because I was too focused on a “Top House” choice.
Many of the sororitys considered in the top 5 are looking for Cali girls with over 1000 instagram followers and loads of super model bikini shots. Great if this is your vibe and you connect on this level. This is not who I am or what I wanted out of a sorority commitment.
I realized in my second rush, that there were 10+ great houses at UCLA all with great accomplished girls. Reality Check…if you get in to UCLA you are smart, active, unique and accomplished. With so few houses on campus every house has beautiful, smart and great girls. If you want to be defined by an outdated, ridiculous ranking system---than focus only on “Top 5”, but you will likely be disappointed.
These rankings are perpetuated by a few girls in some of the houses who rely on old reputations and frat perceptions based on social media pictures of “hot girls”. This ranking BS seems to be important to their self-worth and identity. They make nasty comments on this page about the general reputation or vibe of a house and really know nothing about the house or the personalities of its sisters. Every house does great social, philanthropic and sisterhood events. All the houses at UCLA are beautiful. Rankings are ridiculous…we are all lucky to have fun great homes and sisterhoods at UCLA and every house has amazing attributes and women. Don’t get wrapped up in the stupid ranking system-you will miss out on meeting and finding a really great sisterhood and home.
#1 by: Agree
Agree for the most part but you can say this without tearing top houses down. Despite what you may think about their sisterhoods, some girls genuinely feel at home in their house and just because they’re a top house that doesn’t mean you should take away from that. With that being said, rankings are overrated and PBMs should go where they feel the most comfortable m-whether that is a top house or not. Good luck with rush girls!!!
#3 by: Borden
You women are vile I’ve never seen such blatant disrespect, slanderous lies, and egregious acts by women in organizations who are supposed to be empowering for our gender.
This is why it seems fake. Why doesn’t anybody make these claims to each other’s faces or during recruitment. Most are lies and nobody has the gall to say it to another woman’s face.
I didn’t cry all throughout the emotional roller coaster that was rush. I got a house that you people claim is “top” and reading these hateful comments and clearly manufactured tear downs of other houses full of women who were probably so excited to receive their invitation to join a sisterhood is outrageous to me and THAT ladies is what made me cry today. Never have I seen such high disrespect for each other. We demand it from society, from men, but we can’t even manage to give it to each other. WE ALL went through an arduous process and to belittle each other based on where we ended up after the process that is at least 50% out of our control is demoralizing. I know for a fact someone from my own new house was talking about responding and blasting “gossip girl style” as she proudly put it at yesterday’s FIRST chapter meeting. Because of that and reading all the nasty rumors take downs and false accusations on here I will be dropping. I don’t want to be anywhere near this kind of toxicity that’s so well hidden during rush. I’m sorry to the girl who’s spot I may have filled that could have taken it. I’m sorry for believing the sisterhood women empowerment spiel and I’m most of all sorry for all of you that this is your idea of joining a community at a nationally ranked university. College is about learning, please learn and become better. Become all those things these houses say they instill in women. Empower yourselves without tearing anyone down, we face that too much in this world already. I fight back tears because I too thought this was something I wanted and never did I think this horror could be true outside of movies. Well it really is and far worse. I may be ridiculed for this and I wasn’t even planning on writing this much but my emotions are flowing out, realizing how much more devasted I truly am about this than I thought.
Look at the big picture ladies and I pray you all can find it in your hearts to love one another and find positivity in each other.
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by: The trithSep 28, 2018 4:15:57 AM
Yes to this comment!!!! Love this