do connections matter that much
by: ../:My friend and I just rushed and we are both Sprind admits in our sophomore year. I got dropped from everything but “the bottom 2” but i expected it (this isn’t a troll). My friend is really pretty like gorgeous and pretty charismatic, and she got dropped by the top 4 but got asked back to all the rest. Is it because she’s a transfer and doesn’t know people, or did she do something wrong or isn’t enough? because i feel bad for her since she was expecting to get asked back and idk what to tell her
Commentby: ExactlyJan 15, 2020 5:45:48 PM
Exactly. Connections and references only go so far. But you are shortchanging yourself if you think you can only have fun in one or two sororities. I mean just because you can't get in to UCLA, doesn't mean you shouldn't go to college.
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by: NobodyJan 14, 2020 5:51:53 PM
by: panhellJan 16, 2020 3:21:00 PM
I'm a senior now, but all of my friends were in Theta when I rushed and I got dropped after the first day. I ended up in a house that is not in one of the "top 4" houses and absolutely ADORE IT. I've met my best friends on earth and am so glad I'm not in a catty/fake "top" house. Maybe it's different in other houses, but connections literally mean nothing to my chapter.
We often drop PNMs because all they do is name drop girls in the house but don't show us their own personality/character. Have great conversations in the house - that is literally all that matters.
Fun fact, houses can go over pledge class quota if they have juniors or seniors in the PC. It's not a negative thing if you're older at all!
DO: Be yourself, be genuine, be kind, be a good conversationalist. DON'T: Put other houses down, go in with a "top or nothing" mindset, bring up any controversial topics (e.g. boys/money/partying), only ask questions about the house and tell us nothing about yourself.
I know everyone says this, but trust the process. You'll end up in the right house for you.
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by: huhJan 15, 2020 12:38:42 AM
#6 by: panhell
It is definitely not because she is a transfer/spring admit. It's all a numbers game - don't take it personally. Maybe her conversations weren't memorable or she discussed something that raised a red flag. Being in the "top 4" is not the be-all-end-all. Find a house that shares your values and has girls that you love to be around. You'll notice that there are both gorgeous girls and not conventionally attractive girls in EVERY house. It's not about how you look - it's about your personality.
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by: trueJan 14, 2020 10:24:31 AM
and I see people who could have been kappas in pi phi for example, but their situation might have just been enough to cut them
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