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Red flags when seeing a frat boy

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Don’t know where else to ask so here we go. What are some red flags to look out for if you’re seeing/interested in an older frat boy? I’m in first year but have been kind of seeing this older guy for a few weeks.

Does it mean anything if a lot of girls comment on his pics (he says they’re just friends) or if he tells you he’s studying but you know he’s actually partying (but just with guys. at least I think). A few more things but are these even bad or am I just worrying for no reason? What are some red flags in general to look out for?

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“A lot of girls comment on his photos but he tells me they’re just friends”

“He tells me he’s studying but he’s actually partying”

Girl are you dumb or are you dumb? I know you’re in first year but seriously how oblivious can you be? These ARE red flags. You’re “seeing” an fboy.

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there are no red flags here. this is college, you dont need to worry about stuff like that. just be chill and fun and sleep with him.

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this isn't high school. lots of girls comment on their guy friends photos. about the lying about studying thing idk but its only been a few weeks so chill

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Ask the older girls what his reputation is. Don't trust the "girl best friend". I am the girl bsf and take my word. If he has history with a girl and they are still friends sorry to say this but they will get back together. Trust your gut

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by: friend   

I was seeing an older frat guy over the summer and we were exclusive and randomly he starts being distant. Few weeks pass by and turns out the girl he has history with was back in town and they started to hu again. I found out this is not the first time they’ve done this. Fck both of them

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thisˆˆˆ^ u can't beat history....but like sis drop initials so we don't also get hurt

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You're a 1st year, don't worry about relationships. Let him fk you when he wants and don't annoy him with your insecurities.

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hi I would say that this man doesn’t want to date you and probably sees your situation as a casual hookup and not “seeing each other”. Especially if he’s older and you’re in first year, I would either accept it’s casual and keep it that way or move on and find someone who wants what you want. If you’re already stressing about red flags it’s probably best to let it go.

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by: Red flags   

He’s so hot though :(

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by: guy   

From a guys perspective: if a girl was committed to being FWB with me for an extended period of time like 6+ months then I would consider upgrading her to GF.

I think thats what you should do. Be FWB with him and do his laundry and clean his room for a while and you will have a decent chance of being upgraded to his GF.

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by: really?   

does this really work? ive been fwb before with a guy and one day he told me he got a girlfriend and blocked me.

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Girls comment on photos of good looking guys they aren’t interested in all the time. Doesn’t mean he’s hooking up with them. Stop being so insecure especially so early.

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Literally.. it’s completely normal

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by: Not a thing   

Girls commenting on guys photos is completely normal lol

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Ok sorry, a lot of these previous comments are very harsh. It sounds like you already know something is wrong with him, so I’d be careful and try not to get too many feelings involved. Those definitely seem like red flags. If you wanna try and make it work tho maybe give it a few more weeks or ask him what he’s looking for. Without sounding clingy. You got this!

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What’re his initials??

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Fr tho

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ok so I had a thing with a 4th year guy when I was first year, he had a bit of a bad rep but is a great guy (older girls and my big told me watch out). started up super casual hooking up everyone knew we were a thing, he wasn't hooking up with anyone else but neither was I but he never took it further as in saying we were bf and gf. Anyways things started to fizzle a bit another guy started showing interest in me and actually saying I want to date you, I really like you so we started dating. First guy comes back and says biggest mistake I ever made was not dating you, Im sorry. Sorry for this long story, but just go with your gut it is college and you will make mistakes take it with a grain of salt.

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by: choices   

oh and my new bf isn't a frat boy. I hear you though with the trust issues its awful especially when they live in the house which was the case with my guy.

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