recruitment

I think you should do it! Be careful though, some of the sororities are extremely catty

There could have been many reasons you weren't invited back, but you should know that no sorority is EVER supposed to say that they hope to see you back during invitationals. It's against Panhellenic rules and if they said that to you, they're saying it to every girl so that their chapter will get put higher on your list...aka, it's dirty rushing.

It might be higher to get in in third year but it's mainly about where you fit in. The chapters that did invite you back clearly saw something in you, and tbh considering the amount of girls that don't get invited back to any chapter, you were lucky to be invited back to them! It's an honour to be a part of any sorority at UBC, so thinking you're too good for certain chapters isn't really going to fly.

If you really wanted to join a sorority, why would you drop when you got invited back to two?

No, I did not drop because I don't hold "values". I dropped because I didn't feel like I fitted in or belonged in the two chapters that invited me back. I don't see the point in sharing sisterhood or values with girls who I'm not crazy about.. why waste both mine and their time?

Just rush again.
Things may end up differently this time around.
Try to keep an open mind.

Please dont give up!! Im in second year so iv never been on the other side of recruitment but it sounds like you just weren't matched with the right girls. I really hope to see you this fall! I wouldn't say people care about what year you are in! :)

I'm surprised to hear that, I went through recruitment in my fourth year and was invited back to three.
But honestly the entire time the chapter I wanted (AOII) never invited me back, I was surprised since I thought they wanted me.. Nevertheless I encourage you to go through it again! I have friends who dropped out of their first time going through recruitment, and when going through it the next year they truly felt so so comfortable with the chapter they ended up in!
Speaking from a recruiter point of view:
Sometimes it just takes some time, and it's possible the girls you happened to talk to were ones you didn't click with, or the chapter had so many PNMs they had to harshly (and emotionally) cut PNMs even if they really wanted them.
I can really relate to that personally, you're never going to be BFFs with all the 100+ girls in your chapter, and for the chapter I joined, I am definitely not close to Amy of the ones I talked to during recruitment. But I found the purity, class, and ambition in both them and the friends I am so incredibly close to in my sorority, that I didn't even realize the intense connection between us all until maybe a month, or maybe ever 6-8 weeks after my initiation. Even now I truly thank those in my chapter, yes those I'm not really close to, for the strength and clarity they have brought to my life 💞