take a bid, rush again next year, or go gdi?

It sucks that you didn't get the top houses, but in reality it isn't about being top. If you remain GDI then I'll be honest and say that you definitely won't be partying with your friends in top houses. If you take the bid from Gphi or SDT you'll at least have the opportunity to gain great sisters and build lifelong friendships. If you decide to stay GDI then that it entirely your decision, but I wouldn't say to NOT take the bid just because they're a low tier house. Everyone parties, you just don't party with people like Sig Chi or FIJI.

If it's that important then stay GDI. If you're willing to accept that you aren't going to be considered top of the line, then take the bid. Every house has fun, it's your viewpoint that makes it good or not.

It's hard not to be disappointed when your invites don't match your expectations, especially when your friends seem to be getting invited to the houses you want. Take a deep breath. Don't get caught up in anyone else's recruitment but your own. Ask yourself honestly "Did I like the girls I met at Gamma Phi and/or SDT?" Can I see myself living here? If you would consider joining, I encourage you to go the the final party. It may give you the final look you need. In the very least, you will have gained good recruitment experience, and I'm sure enjoy a nice party. We take a lot of time planning these parties. It sounds like you are a freshman. If you cannot see yourself in either house after the final party, don't accept a bid. You may be able to join a house in the spring or rush again next year. If you do that, like the previous reply said, maybe your friends who end up joining can help you in the process. Don't count on them to "get you in" wherever you want. Try to learn what could give you better results the next time around. good luck!

Ehhh I'd honestly just try again in the spring or next year. I have a few friends who are in "lower" houses and a lot of them regret joining just because they didn't want to feel left out.

Honestly, each sorority knows who would and wouldn't fit in with their sisterhood. You most likely got cut from your top houses because they weren't feeling the connection. And you most likely got invited back to others because you had better connections and conversations. Just because a chapter isn't top doesn't mean they don't have room to grow. And just because a chapter is top, doesn't mean they will be top forever. The purpose of recruitment was to find where you fit in, your home away from home. The girls who invited you back really see you and want you to be a part of their sisterhood. Those who didn't probably did you a favor because you wouldn't have fit in there anyway. No matter what you tell yourself you want and where you think you will fit in, you really don't know. Trust the system because it all works out the way it's suppose to. Girls who join a sorority for the wrong reason will not get the same experience as someone who genuinely belonged there. Good luck and I hope you ended up where you belonged!

The way girls are chosen is very superficial and rushed during rush week. If you feel the houses you received bids from are really houses you feel won't fit you, then try continuous recruitment. You and the houses have a better chance to really get to know each other. You probably feel really confused right now, step back, think through what is really important to you, then decide.