second choice

I think the key to moving on is understanding that it isn't as personal as it feels right now. I know in my sorority there just weren't enough spots in our pledge class to accommodate every single girl that we loved. Which means our second bid list was filled with girls we would LOVE to have in our chapter but we just couldn't have every single girl from our first and second list. It's all a numbers game, and you can be SO close but it still end up being so far away, but it's through no fault of your own at this point in the process.

Also keep in mind that some people didn't even have two houses left that were considering them. You are lucky that two wonderful groups of sisters were interested in you.

You have to remember that you are hitting your emotional point a lot later than some girls who didn't get "their " house first, second or third round. The emotions are real and hurt; however, all of this is caught up in how you see your identity. You have to think beyond that. In every pledge class there are some people who have their first choice and some people who have their second. You aren't unique in this. When you step back, I hope you realize that you have tons of wonderful girls who are worth getting to know and enjoy as sisters. It's about stretching yourself and embracing the new and different., and that will help you grow and stretch as a person. Also, you will develop great bonds with your sisters,. This does not prevent you from being you and enjoying other friendships. So, cease the day, be open and you will will reap tremendous benefits!

I think the other HUGELY important thing is that even if you're a little disappointed right now, you make sure you go and try it out. Even if you missed bid day, go to social events and meals. Try to get out and meet your new pledge class and the older sisters who you haven't met yet (it's a lot less intense in these kinds of situations than right away at bid day). Once you get going it's easier to forget about the feeling of rejection that you may have right and focus more on the positives of what your new friendships will be like! As long as you give it a legitimately good try, you won't have any regrets later on that you may have if you don't give your house a real shot.

bumping bc this year's new pledge classes should hear this kind of advice too

Honestly when I opened my bid day card last year and realized I got my second choice I was devastated. I still went to bid day and I tried to have a good time but I ended up leaving early and cried in my room. But I decided to give it a chance and ended up falling in love with the girls in my sorority. Give it time and put some effort into getting to know the girls and I promise it'll be okay

Bump! Good info here!