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THIS!!! It's really upsetting but this is so true. If you don't get in it's not because you aren't wonderful and smart and pretty, it just means that either the sorority had a lot of people they knew who they wanted to give bids to, or someone had better grades or made a connection with the person they talked to more. It's SOOOO random!!! It literally is the luck of the draw with whether or not you get a bid. Be charming is my best advice. Be great at conversations. Make them like you by listening to their stories, telling jokes, attentive body language. Practice practice practice for conversation skills!!!!

At the same time though they take the information you provide in your application (and from social media stalking) to match you up with a girl in their chapter that they think you'll have a good connection with based on your interests. Sometimes the system doesn't work or there are girls they've already decided they want more than you, but they genuinely try to make sure that the conversations you have with the girls you talk to at their house are as good as possible.