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by: Sophomore

So I got in to Phi Mu, and initially I was really excited. But after getting to know the girls and hanging out with them, I really don't feel a connection with any of them, and I'm already dreading staying in this sorority. There's nothing wrong with any of the girls, I just feel like we don't "click" at that my personality is very, very different from theirs. I feel like I don't belong in it, or like maybe this house isn't the right one for me. Is it just because I'm nervous? Do girls usually have doubts about a house they just joined?
I'm considering dropping and coming back in the fall instead to be a part of formal fall recruitment. Then I'll be able to get to know all of the Panhellenic houses and see which one is the best fit for me. But I'll be a junior by then, and honestly a lot of girls have told me that it's really hard for a junior to get a bid, and that no one even really considers them. Is this true?
Should I stick it out with Phi Mu or just wait for FFR?
Are any houses informally recruiting/doing COB for spring? And how likely is it for them to get back to someone who wants to informally rush with them?

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#1  by: stay   
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doubts are normal. you aren't necessarily going to be compatible with girls in your house - you learn to appreciate everyone for what they offer. going through recruitment as a junior is basically impossible, and COB won't go much better. There are plenty of freshmen to fill the spots.

By: stay
by: AdviceJan 27, 2015 11:48:47 PM

Stick with it! It always takes time to transition and find your place within the group. Especially because that PC was so big. Take it as an opportunity to reach out, be more outgoing to find those people you connect well with! Best of luck!

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#2  by: PLUS   
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I'm pretty sure under Panhellenic rules you can't sign another sorority until after a year and unfortunately signing Phi Mu disqualifies you for formal rush or essentially signing any house till after a year

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#3  by: Uw   
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You've had like 1 sisterhood event, you haven't even had a chance to meet the entire chapter. You probably should have looked around at the recruitment events and made a couple friends. Hard to believe you signed a bid without a single connection made. Probably should've thought about that lol. Ps. Way to give your new sisters a chance

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