dropping out of sorority

Plz help me people!! I know there’s no way in hell I have to be forced to be initiated in this sorority!!! There’s a way out, so give me advice plz!!!!

You can't go through recruitment, whether it's through COB or FFR until a full calendar year after you accepted the bid with the house you're in now (so bid day this past year), meaning you couldn't participate in next year's formal recruitment or COB until next fall quarter. So yeah, accepting the bid hurt your chances.

That's false. You can participate in FFR next year, just no COB this year.

I'm sorry you don't like your house, but just about every house is the exact same in the scheme of things. I'm sorry but if you don't like your house then sorority life in general must not be for you. There aren't any houses in UWs GS that are THAT bad that you'd know within 2 weeks you hate it. I don't think I fell in love with my house until the end of my fall quarter. You've been here for just over 2 weeks, that's nothing. Doubt you even have gotten to meet everyone yet, chances are there's someone there you'll relate to!!

Don't get discouraged, the system really works. If you wait until a full month has passed and still don't like it, then maybe try and see if you can move into a subleased room in the Greek system (check Craigslist and UW housing Facebook pages) people post on there all the time.

Look, if the reason why you don't want to be in your sorority is because it's not "top" or cool enough, let me tell you that dropping and re-rushing next year or COBing will not get you into a higher tier sorority. These girls WANTED you. And I doubt that you would end up anywhere next fall to be honest, after accepting your bid.

If the reason you don't want to be in it is because you don't like the rhythm of sorority life, don't like having to fulfill certain obligations of membership... then that's a good reason to drop. Girls won't give you a bid if they don't think you will fit in the house. I think you sound a little stubborn, but that's normal. You're leaving home for the first time (presumably) and everything is probably overwhelming right now. Just try to focus on class for now and keep an open mind until November.

I want to emphasize though - even if you don't think this is the house for you, I really doubt you would get into another house next fall, except one of the very "bottom" tiered ones. Recruitment chairs and houses remember people that they've seen before.

Great advice from no and honest--it's true that to some degree every sorority provides the same experience and it's VERY different from living at home and going to HS

very few people feel at home in college even after a couple months

you don't even REALLY know what it's like to go here yet

if you're not putting yourself out there and making serious effort to get to know your PC and the one above, you're not going to magically have a great experience somewhere else. and if you're rude to the women in your current house, word gets around. their friends in other houses aren't going to be excited to welcome you

you really do get out what you put in

maybe talk to some older girls, but if you're really going to quit, do it soon because there are people trying to make emotional and financial investments in you as a sister. don't stick someone with a little who quits

I think you'd be better off waiting and doing COB next fall, FFR is already a tough process for any upperclassmen and people will find out that you rushed and dropped and will usually mark you down for it. There was a girl that pledged Tri Delt that dropped before initiation and then went through FFR this year and everyone knew, we didn't necessarily drop her because of it but we were definitely cautious, and I think she ended up withdrawing herself from the process.

Depending on why you don't think your current house is a good fit you may be able to get a more genuine read on the people in a future house through COB where it's less formal and fake. You would also be better able to explain why you dropped before initiation on a COB date.

For housing this year, if you can afford a sorority you can afford housing in U district. My room in a three bedroom apartment near campus costs $650 a month. Look on the UW housing page for people still looking for roommates and try to find a place to rent. You could even find a studio for ~$700 a month (although I wouldn't recommend that for freshmen year). Don't drop until you've found housing, and then email your president and she can process your withdrawal.

Also keep in mind that if you've already signed a housing contract with your current sorority there could be penalties for breaking that as its a legal contract. In my house most of the new members have signed them already and it's basically like a lease.