sorority recs

Get a rec for every house, don't slack off because some are easier than others to get! It shows that you took the time and energy to get one and are giving every house the effort and consideration they all deserve. All houses would like you to have one as a baseline introductory form. Houses, even "top", don't necessarily drop you because you don't have a rec letter, but if you don't know anyone in the chapter super well and aren't gorgeous with a clean rep and 4.0, you need one. If all things are equal between you and another girl but she has a rec and you don't, it will probably hurt you. No, it is not weird to ask a woman you don't know to write one. Email the alum chapter and attach a resume with a well-written request for someone to write you one, and send a thank you note immediately if they say they will. Sometimes they wait to send their rec letter to see if you had good enough manner to formally thank them. Ask on FB, reach out to friend of friend's mothers/aunts/sisters/cousins. Just be polite and gracious

You need a rec for every house or you will most likely get dropped first round. I didn't have one for sigma kappa and they didn't drop me but that was the only one that worked out like that for me.

for every house. It's a way to be introduced and shows them that you cared enough to put in the effort. Most chapters have some sort of system for sorting PMNs into categories to help them manage the numbers (legacies, people they know, rec girls they don't know but want to meet, etc). The rec may tell them that you are really strong at something they are looking for- maybe they need an actress, or a singer, or some good athletes, and they want to know those things about you. You want to be on their list and a rec can help you get there! Also, some chapters are required by the system to cut more heavily in the early rounds and unless you know a lot of girls, lacking a rec makes you an easy early cut for those top recruiting groups. Many chapters also have national requirements to have a rec for every girl they pledge, anyway, so you need to get one to make that part easy on them. Ask your teachers, your mom's friends, people you babysit for, etc. If they were greek they are used to being asked and will not think it is weird to write a rec for you. And write those thank you notes- its polite and if they haven't done the rec, it will remind them to send it!