recruitment advice

PNMs, here is the hard truth: you are going to get dropped by somewhere you love. you might’ve been dirty rushed by them. they might tell you at the house how much they love you and see you fitting in so well. and it’s gonna suck. but you’re going to get through it. \n\n\n\n\nyou don’t realize it until you are on the other side of recruitment, but people aren’t joking when they say recruitment is a numbers game. and unfortunately, you might’ve been paired with the bump group that tends to rate girls lower—where their 6 means they LOVE you—while other girls in their srat just tend to rate higher and will rate someone a 7 that is just okay. that’s one of the random aspects of recruitment and it doesn’t mean the girls didn’t like you; sadly there are 1000 girls rushing and people fall through the cracks. it doesn’t mean you aren’t fun or can’t hold a conversation. it just ends up like that sometimes. from our side, there are girls that we LOVE who get dropped and we hate to see it, but we can’t pull every girl just based on a brief conversation. you’re going to have to be tough and remember that the srats that called you back WANT you there, and they want you there enough to make sure you don’t fall through the cracks. take that as the compliment it is and take full advantage of getting to know them, but don’t let being dropped make you think you’re not worthy. \n\n\n\n\non that note, just because you get dropped from the “hot” srat doesn’t mean you’re not hot. just because you get dropped from the “party” srat doesn’t mean you don’t party. and god knows just because you get dropped from “top” tiers doesn’t mean you’re below anyone else. and if you get invited back to srat that you don’t think is meant for you just because of what you’ve heard/read—get your head out of the gutter and get to know them. learn why they want you there. as rush goes on, they’ll be able to match you better and you might meet your future big in the next round, right when you think you’re going to drop. i and so many of my friends are in srats we didn’t think we’d be in from the start, and are so glad we are. i can personally say i know i made an impact on the personality of my srat, stood out for leadership, and met so many wonderful girls i would have never otherwise. \n\n\n\n\nlastly, UVA is a super involved school. everyone is in a million different clubs. the srat i was heartbroken dropped me—i ended up being friends with so many of them through other things, went to their date functions all the time, etc. AND i got to still experience greek life, an incredible sisterhood, and meet amazing people through the one i joined. just because you’re dropped doesn’t mean you’re blacklisted from ever interacting with those girls. some things don’t work out—honestly, as someone who is at UVA this might be one of your first times experiencing that—and that’s OKAY. you have 2-3 more amazing years, and honestly, so many people drop here by 4th year because greek life is not required to have a social life. it’s just another way to meet people and gain leadership positions if you want, but it’s not everything.\n\n\n\n\ndon’t join a srat if you truly can’t see yourself there. but it’s also important to remember where you are called back is because they are interested in you and they see YOU adding something to their sisterhood. they see you fitting in. you will be going to parties and make friends regardless—for rush, go where calls YOU home.\n\n\n\n\ngood luck!!!