post-rush has been hard
by: bummedi rushed as a second year and didn't get in anywhere despite all my friends in sororitys rn saying theyd help. i get that they prob didnt have a huge say, but every single person in my friend group joined one and now ive been feeling super left out bc every weekend theyve been going to mixers and doing sorority stuff. a lot of my guy friends stopped talking to me or putting me on the lists to their parties bc im not in a sorority and they think i must be "weird" if i didn't get into one. a lot of my relatives have been judging me bc i didnt join greek life like they did. ive always looked forward to joining a sorority and finding my sisterhood because my mom and grandma had such amazing experiences, one i will never have now. i haven't seen a lot of my friends because they've been busy with sorority stuff and its rlly been making me feel lonely. i really don't understand why i did not get in anywhere- im nice and i thought i had so many great conversations. now, for the past month, i've just been spending a lot of my time by myself and i rlly hate the rush process at uva /:
#1by: :/
Really sorry that it didn’t work out for you :( I hope you at least gave it a full go and didn’t drop when you had 2 or 3 left that you didn’t like. My advice is to keep your head up and find a new hobby / organization because Greek life is NOT end game of all things UVA has to offer!! Here are some suggestions:
1. Join a club sport / intramural team (stay in shape, meet people, mix with boys!)
2. Start volunteering your time (helps others and will eventually make you feel better too)
3. Get a job! (Make money AND interacting with others will help you feel energized)
4. If you’re really that hung up on Greek life, get a boyfriend who’s in a frat. He’d take you to all his events and you’d always be on their list :)
Comment#2by: um, ok...
What nonsense is this?
Plenty of people have friends in and out of the greek system here at UVa. Also, lots of women not in the greek system are on party lists, it has nothing to do with whether you are in a sorority or not (obviously they let you in last year when you weren't in a sorority).
I find it strange that you and your entire circle of female friends only rushed as second years and they ALL got into a sorority except you?
Assuming your story isn't a fake one (and let's be honest, in sounds more like a thinly veiled attack of the greek system more than an actual story), maybe you thought you were much closer to these people than you really were? Or maybe they never really considered you a close friend to begin with...
Spoiler alert: not all parties at UVa happen at frat houses, there are plenty of parties happening off-grounds as well. Expand your circle of friends and see what happens. Again, that is if your "story" is true to begin with...
by: ^
This is the truth. Girls drop out because they didn't give themselves or the sororities that wanted them a chance, and then they say they couldn't get a bid. If you go to pref and rank them you are guaranteed to be in a sorority.
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by: yes
ppl drop and complain that rush doesn’t give enough time for the sororities that dropped them to get to know them - but then they turn around and drop sororities they barely know
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#6by: hey
im sorry it didn’t work out for you. Rush is a difficult thing to coordinate and design so many girls slip through the cracks at houses they would have fit in great with. I’m a 4th year now in a sorority, but I rushed and dropped first year and remember feeling really alone. I had a group of friends but suddenly they were off with new groups and I was alone a lot. This really won’t matter in a few years and sororities really aren’t that deep, but I think a lot of people underestimate how much it hurts to drop completely. It’s not rejection from a college or a bad test grade because you didn’t prepare or study hard enough, it feels like rejection for just being yourself. AGAIN, that’s not what it is and you’ll honestly be fine in a couple of months, but I understand it feeling like that right now.
Keep your chin up and try to join some more clubs that have social events
If you’re into sports, Hoo crew is a great one because you’ll always have people to sit with at games and they have lots of social events
by: hey
I would also look into some coed service/major frats! I looked into those before doing informal. you could also look into informal, tho this will prob be hard as a 3rd year competing with 2nd years (it’s not separated like regular rush)
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#7by: Empathy
Awww hang in there. I’m still in hs but my mom went to uva before they had the rule where you are guaranteed a bid if you 100% complete rush. She preffed her two favorites (sophomore year) and was excited about both but got a bid to neither on bid day. All her housemates went off to their sororitys and she was bummed and alone much of the rest of the spring. She did have to find new housing and some non sorority friends. I won’t lie - it sounds awful and she really doubted her looks and social skills. But hey she made it through and is here today to warn me that getting ranked by your peers can sting. I’m sorry you had to go through that. Not sure I will do it! FWIW she thinks it’s hard to stand out to sororities unless you come from wealth, have prior connections, are a varsity athlete or are just very pretty. But hey - that leaves a ton of cute nice fun regular girls around campus — go find them!
by: ^
High school girls and their middle-aged moms giving advice on UVA sorority rush. Right.
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by: Um
by: Wtf
Why would someone post this if it weren’t true? What ulterior motive could there be lol.
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by: @Wtf
Trolls looking for attention and sympathy while posting a thinly veiled critique of the Greek system?
I mean, both the OP and this person's mom both experienced the exact same situation decades apart?
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by: No
The sorority friends can only do so much. The entire chapter is involved in these decisions as well as the recruitment team, depending on how a chapter does their membership selection. It also depends on how much influence certain members have within their chapter to get others to pull for pnm's. Members who everyone knows and respects, especially if they are older, have more sway than younger or less involved members, and also there are a few people in my chapter who I just don't care for, so if they like someone, I'm not going to want more of that same kind of girl in my chapter and won't support their friends getting in. So it's not at all about "if your sorority friends liked you enough you could've gotten a bid."
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by: looool
Nah, it's a fake story.
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