i “trusted the process” & it didn’t work
by: boohooI hope that there aren’t too many people in this position. I’m a fourth year now and I rushed my second year and it didn’t go well. I was dropped from every house except the three lowest here after round robins. I never felt like I was too good for these houses, but I was crushed when I felt so undesirable and unwanted by every other sorority. I tried to stick it out but dropped right before prefs. At the time I was very sad about it, but I promise it isn’t the end of the world! I now have a great group of friends that I’ve met through other clubs. I know it probably hurts now if you’re in a similar position. It really does get better. It took me a long time to believe this, but being in a sorority is not going to make or break your college experience.
Comment#2by: mutual selection
Sorority rush uses a process known as “mutual selection”, where chapters rank PNMs and PNMs rank chapters. As a result, PNMs are able to drop chapters their not interested in and chapters are able to drop PNMs that they are not interested in, so OP is not lying with either statement she made.
by: sororities' choice
@almost is correct. Pnm's do not drop houses, they only rank them. When a sorority releases a pnm, that house drops off the pnm's schedule. If it leaves an open spot in her schedule, the algorithm will then fill that spot by moving up another house that the pnm ranked lower. This is to ensure that a pnm's schedule is as full as possible for that round. So to actually 'drop' a house, a pnm would have to be a no-show at a party. That's a good way to get kicked out of rush.
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#3by: wow
"I was crushed when I felt so undesirable and unwanted by every other sorority"
Sounds like you suck as a person. You seemed to be aiming for only the "cool sororities", and sounds like you didn't give the "bottom three" a chance because they were at the bottom. Who knows, you could have been a good fit for them.
Also, not everyone is entitled to join a sorority here. Demand outstrips supply, so not everyone can join the top sorority of their choice. It happened to you, suck it up and stop blaming the "process" for you not joining one of the top sororitys.
#4by: Regrouping
I have had a soul searching kind of week following rush/bid day. I had what I thought were some great conversations and connections during round robins and was really optimistic going into philanthropy despite being dropped by my top 6 choices in the first cuts. A few people seemed genuinely interested in recruiting me. For house tours, I had 2 options where I felt compatible and 2 where I had doubts. Then prefs and down to the 2 where I think I knew, and the sororitys knew I was not a great fit. I dropped before bid day because I didn’t want to make such a commitment. I am hoping I find a sorority during informal recruiting. My entire friend group made great matches during on bid day. The upside is that I have friends at a lot of different houses. The downside is that I still need to regroup and trust the process again.
by: MRABA
If you signed a card after pref then you are ineligible for another bid for a calendar year. The MRABA card is a binding agreement.
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#5by: Regrouping
by: @Regrouping
sorry, but that's what it sounds like! seems like the op wanted to join a "cool" sorority, couldn't get in, and is whining about it here. that's how she comes across.
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#6by: Reflection
Ok she may not have worded it the best with “bottom 3,” but there is no denying how crushing rejection can be in any setting- clubs, academics, friends. And we all know UVA is great at serving humble pie.
I can totally understand how only having 3 houses left (no matter which ones they were) would feel like some crap.
i think her overall message is great and true: there really is a lot at UVA outside greek life and ur not even shut out if ur not in a greek org, you basically get to do the same things
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by: almost
You can list houses as your least preferred but you are not actually dropping anyone. The only time you'd definitely say no is if you opened your bid card and decided not to accept it.
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