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considering dropping my sorority

by: lost

I rushed last year and joined one of the upper sororities. I’m from out of state so I did not know anyone in my sorority going in but from the first day I could tell there was a major cliche of girls who had all already been friends and roommates going into my pledge class. I make an effort to reach out to hang with some of the other girls and am often politely told “sorry I have plans” or replied to hours later after the event has happened. The girls I have managed to become friends with are super sweet but do not go out often and I was hoping to make those types of friends by joining a sorority. I often dread going to chapter or sorority meetings as I don’t know who to talk to or sit with. I hoped that when I got my big this would be easier but my big and I have not become that close and she often hangs with her friends outside the sorority. Going into rush I had hoped to live in the house my third year but now I’m considering dropping before I even get to that point as I feel invisible in sorority. I’ve attended every event but it feels like the major clique of girls is uninterested in expanding their group. Any advice? Should I keep trying or quit before I get too hurt?

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#1  by: Uhm   
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If this is real that sucks and you shouldn’t drop. Just do everything you wanna do anyway look for a different group of girls maybe outside your sorority idk

By: Uhm
#2  by: Hmm   
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If you don’t feel like this is the right fit then you should drop. You’re spending a lot of money for something you aren’t happy with.

By: Hmm
#3  by: relate   
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I was in a very similar situation to you- in one of the "top three" sororities but felt like I hadn't found my place there. I ended up living in the house my third year and it was so good for me. It forced me to go outside my comfort zone a bit and get to know the girls I didn't before, and now I love my sorority. Obviously do whatever feels right for you, but I recommend at least maintaining your affiliation and continuing to give it a chance.

By: relate
#4  by: UM DROP    
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Drop them . Doesn't sound like a true sisterhood and definitely not what sorority life should be . Too many other great choices on grounds - don't waste your time. This is coming from a greek girl who had a good experience .

By: UM DROP
#5  by: X   
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I'm not in one of the top tier ones, but I struggled to connect with anyone in my sorority during my first couple semesters in it for a lot of the same reasons as you. It took me until the end of my second year to really find a group of girls in my pledge class that I felt super close to, and it was worth the wait. I would advice that you keep it one more chance and keep putting yourself out there, but if your heart really isn't in it, it's not the end of the world if you decide to drop.

Best of luck.

By: X
#6  by: TJ   
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I struggled in my sorority too. The thing that changed for me was participating in rush and having a hand in selecting new members who I really liked. That said, you have to do what is right for you.

By: TJ
#7  by: why   
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Could it have to do with you, because I'm curious why you have to say you're in a top sorority. What difference does that make?

By: why
by: BecauseNov 6, 2019 9:50:12 PM

A lot of the girls in top sororities can be kinda cliquey and exclusive and might not be as friendly to girls who aren’t as popular or who don’t fit in with them

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