rushing as a transfer

Hi, I'm posting the same message I wrote to another woman who was planning to rush as a second year:

I know a little bit about how you feel. I rushed as a transfer second year. The main think I wished I'd been told was to keep my mind open and to be kind and opposed to judgmental. I was lucky that I kept going back to one sorority that I thought of as a "safety." and it turned out I needed them when they were the only house who wanted to pref me. I am glad I gave them a shot and have enjoyed being in a sorority. However, if I hadn't let my snobby and preconceived opinions go, I would have stayed bitter and sad. I know it's hard to believe but so much of recruitment is about numbers, and the numbers just are not on a second or third-year's side. There are very few spots for those girls so be open-minded and keep your options open. Then you will avoid the needless drama I subjected myself to. I hope you will go through rush and make the experience a positive one by focusing on the groups that want you! Welcome to UVA!