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it doesn't get better...

by: depressed

three weeks after bid day when all my friends received bids from their dream sororities and i didn't.... and i still feel terrible. i'm falling behind in school because i feel so sad. looking at transfer apps

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#11  by: Guest   
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Seems like y'all dropouts should form your own new mid-tier sorority.

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by: GuestFeb 15, 2017 11:04:38 PM

Local sorority with alcohol.

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#12  by: it gets better   
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hey girl!!! i understand totally how you feel. i dropped after the first round of rush and i was so sad for like a month like crying myself to sleep and crying my mom just to sob sad and bid day was the worst watching my best friends get bids and having fun with all their sisters it just takes time. people shouldn't be trivializing your pain because it really does hurt but i seriously for real promise that it gets better!! throw yourself into your classes, try things you wouldn't have thought to, explore charlottesville, treat yo self, and take care of yourself!!! try informal in the fall or formal again next year if you want to, but i pinky promise it does get easier and you're gonna find yourself so much in the next months!!!! sororities can be fun, but they aren't everything (even if all the comfort colors tees on ground are telling you differently). listen, you can make it through the semester, you can rock your classes, and you can have a hell of a time here at uva even if it doesn't currently involve a sorority. much love, you're gonna make it!

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#13  by: Guest   
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Need to bring back Phi Mu

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by: YupFeb 17, 2017 10:01:44 AM

Totally agree. It's time.

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by: yepFeb 17, 2017 11:17:07 AM

let's do it...

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by: 17Feb 17, 2017 2:24:45 PM

I called HQ and they said they didn't think there was enough interest at UVA to support another sorority.

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by: SoFeb 17, 2017 3:48:48 PM

ISC has to invite them back. Talk to ISC.

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by: nygFeb 17, 2017 5:25:37 PM

ISC won't let any new sororitys come until SSS is mid tier.

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by: @nygFeb 17, 2017 7:28:23 PM

this is true. i actually asked and SSS and SDT are struggling too much for UVA to take on a new sorority in the ISC right now.

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by: UmmFeb 17, 2017 11:11:21 PM

SSS will never be mid tier, they've been bottom for 30 years.

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by: yikesFeb 27, 2017 10:15:47 AM

i think bringing back phi mu could be a good option. it's a sorority that has a good to decent reputation nationally, and is at a lot of southern schools. a lot of people don't want to join SSS or SDT because they don't have a good reputation nationally, and a lot of what a sorority is is connections after college. i think more girls would consider these "lower tier" sororitys if they had good national reputations like phi mu.

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by: This^^^^^Mar 6, 2017 3:29:10 PM

This is so true.

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#14  by: isc   
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just talked to isc. they said they arent coming back

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by: @iscFeb 17, 2017 7:28:52 PM

so phi mu is a no go??

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#15  by: phi mu   
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ugh i wish we could somehow all talk about this so we could start phi mu together because i need people like y'all in my life right now

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#16  by: blue   
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The UVA chapter alumni don't want Phi Mu to ever come back.

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by: ?Feb 17, 2017 7:41:10 PM

why not

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by: ...Feb 17, 2017 7:41:58 PM

regardless, there are plenty of NPC chapters that could potentially be started here...

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by: blueFeb 17, 2017 7:55:35 PM

What a family member told me.

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#17  by: miss   
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It starts with the school. When the ISC decides they want another sorority they invite several to make presentations. Then invite the one they want to start a chapter. Seems they are not interested in expanding anymore until the current batch are doing well. So I don't see any new ones in the forseeable future.

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#18  by: rum   
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This isn't rocket science. Interested women coordinate, reach out to some nationals that want to associate with, and see what happens. This is how it works everywhere. Show some initiative.

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by: pepFeb 18, 2017 5:38:20 PM

But the disappointed PNMs don't want to put in the work to build up and existing "low" tier or to create and found a new sorority.

If all of these disappointed PNMs are as good as they say they are, they could all accept bids at a "low" tier and make it better -- right?

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by: NoFeb 18, 2017 6:15:42 PM

There are reasons they are bottom.

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by: wilkFeb 18, 2017 6:59:27 PM

Yes, for the number of girls who go through rush/don't get a bid there should be more houses. The problem also is, however, MANY girls drop out when they only have the bottom houses left. When a new house comes, they are undeniably less desirable than established houses with good reputations, nice houses, Etc. that leads to a bad first pledge class which leads to more bad pledge classes. I don't really know the solution it's kind of a vicious cycle but if we got more sororities, it's pointless unless they're able to establish themselves as a higher than bottom house some how. I know things can get better with time but I don't see the bottom houses moving up in the near future. I'd be curious how APhi did it...went from bottom apparently to a very well ranked house very quickly.

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by: APhiMar 6, 2017 7:23:06 AM

APhi did well because they have a strong national reputation. Girls don't want to join SDT or SSS because they are not strong nationally (as well as locally). ISC needs to get a couple more sororitys on grounds that are strong NATIONALLY. It's not rocket science.

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#19  by: wodka   
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The "lowest" sororitys are useful for others. Women in other sororitys can use their existence to justify their own innate superiority. PNMs who drop rather than join the "lowest" can also use them to say, "I'm too good to accept a bid from them."

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by: SoFeb 18, 2017 4:30:47 PM

It seems there is a bottom tier troll who has their panties in a wad.

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by: truFeb 18, 2017 5:59:49 PM

It's always the mid-tiers who are the most bitter about other sororitys.

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by: Ouch!Feb 18, 2017 6:07:34 PM

Seems you cut me with your razor sharp wit. Go back to Kentucky.

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#20  by: pug   
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Just rush again.

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