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What a B I T C H. Can't you just let people answer without being so critical?

Not everyone hangs out on this site 24/7. If someone has a question you don't like, skip down to the next one. No need to bite their head off.

Of course this is true but has nothing to do with the pairings. It's always top house with top house, etc. You can tell yourself what you want but the pairings tell a lot more

So you think there are no quality people in any houses but the top houses? Shame on you! There are quality people everywhere and it is up to you to find them. I can't believe that someone over 18 years old is going to complain that she can't hang out with anyone decent because she's not in a "top" house. That's ridiculous. If two top houses pair for hoco, that's fine. It's one event. Get over it and meet friends from those houses in other ways. Presumably you are in class with some of them. Perhaps you go out and meet people that way. Perhaps you already have a friend in a house that can introduce you to others. OR, PERHAPS you'll look around and realize that there are a million other quality people that are right around you. In the house you're in, in the fraternity your house is paired with, etc. Real friendship has nothing to do with top v. bottom houses and all to do with you.

Tiers on matter only if they you think they're important. If you let frat guys tell you that you don't matter and you believe them, well, in my opinion that's on you. My social life is not decided by which frat we pair with. I have tons of friends in other houses and also not in any house at all. I don't put the same importance on ranking that you do. I try to value everyone I meet for who they are, not whether they're in a top house or not.

Personally I don't see that happening. I think a lot of socially awkward people blame their inadequacies on factors outside their control so that they don't have to deal with learning how to interact with people more successfully. It's way easier just to say some guy doesn't like you for your letters rather than some guy doesn't like you because you're introverted and don't have much interesting to say when you meet. Cute doesn't matter as much as well put together and presentable. A great personality and a friendly, approachable smile make the difference. I know girls in houses that you consider lower that date guys Betas,and other guys in top houses so I know that's not the problem. I also think that girls in certain houses want to hang out with guys in houses they think are top houses. They tend to ignore the guys in smaller, less involved houses. There are plenty of guys, but the girls in those houses tend to ignore lower tier guys then apparently complain on greekrank that top houses are ignoring them. It seems like the same thing to me. A kind of vicious circle.

Of course it happens every day, you don't have to be socially awkward to realize that, just naive and dumb like you maybe?

She didn't say all girls in lower houses are socially awkward! She said a lot of socially awkward people (nothing about them being in any certain houses) blame their problems on other things which is TRUE. We all know girls in houses that are lower on here who's boyfriends are in houses that are top on here. And it seems disingenuous to complain about top houses not asking yours to pair, when you are disrespecting the "lower" frats that did ask your house by mooning over some other frat.

I think this whole thing is a problem you are having. You don't want to associate with people who you see as below you (lower frats). You want people you see as above you (higher ranked frats and top house girls) to be forced to be your friend.

My advice to you is forget about letters. This is a personal problem and not all people at KU think like you. Start trying to make friends with everyone. If you have trouble making friends, practice the approachable smile and have some interesting things to talk about to people you meet. Work on a more personable attitude and I think you'll be happier.

Jesus Christ SHUT UP stop your analyzing and stop commenting to yourself. You repeat yourself over and over! You seem like you're really off your rocker.

Socially awkward.

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