hey pnms

I am an out-of-state student and joined what most would consider to be a "top" house at KU. I quickly discovered that all of the girls in my pledge class were from the same area and were already good friends from high school as well as friends with the current girls in the house. I soon began to feel very not included and later dropped.

I'm not saying that didn't make them any less wonderful girls, they were still very nice and intelligent and I remain acquaintances with most of them. It is innate human nature to want to spend time with people you are comfortable with. I would probably have done the same thing in their position!

I just wanted to post to remind you that if you do end up joining a "top" house, more power to you! Just know that it will take a lot of effort and people-skills to really get into that group. I didn't have a lot of time to really bond with the girls, so make sure you have that time!

(Obviously, I only joined one house and just because one "top" house was like that doesn't mean they all are. This is just my personal experience!)

Finally, THE TIERS DO NOT MATTER. Seriously. My best friend ended up joining a "bottom" tier sorority and guess what? BOYS STILL HANG OUT WITH HER. Just because you are a "so and so" doesn't mean they are going to stop trying to get in your pants. If they think you're cute, they think you're cute. Bottom line. Just don't worry about it, enjoy recruitment and don't go in with any preconceived notions.