hey pnms
by: something to remembe
I am an out-of-state student and joined what most would consider to be a "top" house at KU. I quickly discovered that all of the girls in my pledge class were from the same area and were already good friends from high school as well as friends with the current girls in the house. I soon began to feel very not included and later dropped.
I'm not saying that didn't make them any less wonderful girls, they were still very nice and intelligent and I remain acquaintances with most of them. It is innate human nature to want to spend time with people you are comfortable with. I would probably have done the same thing in their position!
I just wanted to post to remind you that if you do end up joining a "top" house, more power to you! Just know that it will take a lot of effort and people-skills to really get into that group. I didn't have a lot of time to really bond with the girls, so make sure you have that time!
(Obviously, I only joined one house and just because one "top" house was like that doesn't mean they all are. This is just my personal experience!)
Finally, THE TIERS DO NOT MATTER. Seriously. My best friend ended up joining a "bottom" tier sorority and guess what? BOYS STILL HANG OUT WITH HER. Just because you are a "so and so" doesn't mean they are going to stop trying to get in your pants. If they think you're cute, they think you're cute. Bottom line. Just don't worry about it, enjoy recruitment and don't go in with any preconceived notions.
#1 by: Thank you!
This is so true and I've been trying to say this all along. "Top" houses are not better!! Who and when did someone have the authority to declare what houses were better than others?? I've always said top houses have the most stuck up girls and the majority are from the same high school/hometown. Period. If you want to make new friends and feel like you belong, and want to be a lot happier, don't focus on these fake girls. You will find out very fast you will not be included, you will not get invited, you will be left out. At first you might pat yourself on the back because you got in a certain house but you will find out fast it SUCKS. Look for the genuine girls not the snooty ones.
Comment#3 by: TRUE
PNMs do need to remember this! There is nothing real about a top or bottom house. The only one who cares or even keeps track of things like this are the insecure girls who need to artificially inflate their reputation. If you want real true lasting friendships stay away from the "top" houses because they are just one big extension of high school/hometown cliques. Unless of course you are already part of that clique and don't want to make new friends then by all means go where your friends are
#7 by: ??
You can't say GPhi only ever does stuff with Sig Ep because it isn't true. It's no different than how KD and AXO are CONSTANTLY at Sigma Nu. They're friends..what's the issue? As long as houses do mixers with other people, which they do, why does it matter that Sig Eps prefer to bring GPhis to a date party? It's just a ridiculous argument...
by: pahahaJul 5, 2014 7:24:13 PM
Ok Gphi no it is true. 95% of any mixing or socializing by gphi or sigep is with each other. Sigma Nu does everything with chio SOMETIMES they have kds over and yes achio lives at snu cause of being neighbors but they never do mixers and never invite them to date parties. There's a difference.
It matters cause the Greeks are supposed to be social and the criticism is certain houses are not social and do NOTHING outside their exclusive group. It just makes you rude to other houses. No big deal just accept your criticism that you deserve. Don't deny what's clearly true.
Both your houses (yours and sigeps) have gone downhill a whole lot in 2013/2014 because of your exclusivity to only each other. You and them obviously don't care or you wouldn't do it but stop pretending it isn't true. Wherever there's a pack of sigeps a pack of gphis will be following behind them sniffing them like dogs. "Sigeps prefer to bring gphis to date parties" Can you be a bigger stuck up snob??? You wonder why you and your house get so much negative criticism? It's because of comments like this. Did you ever think they prefer gphis because you are the easiest to get in bed??
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by: Truth@aboveJul 6, 2014 11:05:04 AM
I felt so sorry for you when I read your comment and I'm not even a GPhi. You sound so bitter that people prefer to associate with other people, not you. I don't know anyone who would want to be with someone who would rather be with a different person. Why would you?
You seem obsessed about who the GPhis and I've read many of the hateful things you've said about them. I just want you think about how pitiful it is to try to shame other women because they make different choices than you do. That's just sad.
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by: @Truth@aboveJul 6, 2014 1:41:12 PM
Why do you think it's only one person? I know many girls who feel the same way. They don't want to socialize with sigep they are just saying they suck because they're so snobby to everyone else. Sigep is not that great.
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by: KUJul 6, 2014 2:21:34 PM
The long comments right. No need to feel bad for her, she's spot on. Feel bad for people who have trouble branding out of their comfort zone cause their lives will be SO much more limited than those who don't.
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by: KUJul 6, 2014 2:21:34 PM
The long comments right. No need to feel bad for her, she's spot on. Feel bad for people who have trouble branding out of their comfort zone cause their lives will be SO much more limited than those who don't.
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#9 by: actually...
I read her comment and she is not saying they can't hang out she is saying it makes them both bottom houses because they don't mingle and socialize with anyone else. I totally get it. They only hang out with each other and it makes them completely unsociable which is against the whole point of going Greek. No one cares if they want to live in a bubble but don't act like the houses are so awesome because houses that never socialize become irrelevant.
by: not really Jul 8, 2014 9:02:18 PM
by: that's Jul 6, 2014 2:22:41 PM
No we can read, but that's just a somewhat relevant but not really fact you're trying to excuse GPHI's and SIGEPS obsession with.
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by: Yes I canJul 6, 2014 4:57:07 PM
I can read too! Three mixers all year does not make you social!! You gphis are so clueless. So you spent a couple hours with a house other than sigep? You don't deserve an award and THAT DOES NOT MAKE YOU SOCIAL. You spend almost 100% of your time with sigep. That makes you pathetic. Talk about obsessing? You are obsessed with them. No one cares but stop acting like you're a social house when you are rude conceited and stuck up to everyone else. You have 4 yrs to make college friends it's just immature to never step out of your comfort zone.
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by: really?Jul 5, 2014 11:40:23 AM
GPhi and SigEp do everything together? Maybe they didn't have an official mixer or maybe they did but they are all together every single weekend, and ask only each other on date parties, and shared a beach house in gulf shores. You would have to dig long and hard to find a date party where almost every sigep didn't take a gphi.
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