first week

Honestly it really depends on the sorority. Certain ones have a lot of girls from Kansas who all know each other, and other ones tend to have girls from all over, but every sorority has at least a few girls from out of state. It's super important to put yourself out there and talk to people; the first few weeks are awkward for everybody, and a lot of girls are in the same boat as you and just want to make friends. Don't stress too much; I'm from out of state and I ended up making a lot of friends in my sorority first semester! Just remember you get out of it what you put in, so make sure to get to know a lot of people and go to events!

It really does depend on the house. Bid day when all the high school friends scream and run to each other you're probably going to stand there and feel stupid. That's really the only difference between "top" and "bottom" houses, how hard they are to get in to based on who you know not who you are. I was an unknown and got a middle house and most of us didn't know each other going in, so we all made friends with each other really fast out of necessity. If you end up in a "top" house you will be an outsider from day one and all girls know how hard it is to break into a clique. A lot of girls never do, and they just remain outsiders for four years. That's why girls need to stop focusing on obsessing over a top house because you need to be careful what you wish for.