advice on not clicking with my sorority
by: NMi tried greek life for a semester, but i just don't click at all with my sorority. everyone in my PC has their group and friends and purposefully leave me out. i feel extremely upset and disappointed with my sorority and constantly think about how i would've been so much happier in a different sorority. i feel like mine doesn't have much to offer for me, a group of girls tried to get me kicked out by lying and purposefully telling me the wrong information so i'd mess up, and i genuinely feel i would just be so much happier in a different one. i'm definitely in way too deep as i got initiated and didn't want to because i had so many reserves about my sorority but still went through with it because i still want to be involved in greek life, but just not the one i'm in. i don't know if it's just something to do with me, or if this is normal. should i just drop at this point since i can't be in any other sorority? is it even possible to secretly transfer from one to another despite already being initiated? it just sucks you can't join another one after taking a bid from fall formal until next recruitment and that you can't switch if it's just not working out. i tried everything i could think of to get to know girls in my house, but instead they just give me dirty looks, talk bad about me, and purposefully try to sabotage me. i tried sticking it out and giving it the benefit of the doubt, but it's just so expensive for people to treat me this way. what can i do about it?
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I understand how difficult and disappointing it can be to feel like you don't fit in with your sorority. Everyone seems to have different experiences in Greek Life and some find that it doesn't align with their expectations or values. The fact that you've been purposely excluded by members of your sorority, lied to, and even targeted for expulsion is completely unacceptable and not at all what Greek Life is meant to be about. I highly encourage talking about this issue with your exec, PHC, or LEAD Berkeley if it is this severe. It's understandable that you're feeling extremely upset and disappointed, and questioning whether Greek Life is right for you at all, but maybe GreekRank isn't the best option to ask advice.
Unfortunately, once initiated, it is not possible to join another sorority, and it's true that the system of recruitment and initiation can make it challenging to switch to a different organization. It's understandable that you're feeling frustrated with this limitation, but it's important to keep in mind that Greek Life is not meant for everyone, and that it's ultimately up to you to decide what is best for your well-being and happiness.
As for the cost, it's true that Greek Life can be expensive and it's understandable that you're questioning whether or not it's worth it to continue to pay these costs while experiencing such negative treatment. It's important to weigh the costs and benefits, and decide whether the benefits outweigh the costs.
It's possible that your experience may improve in the future. However, it's also important to consider that if you continue to experience negative treatment, and you don't feel that you're getting the value you want out of the experience, it may be best to step away from Greek Life altogether.
It is also important to consider speaking with a counselor or advisor, to get a different perspective, and help you come to a decision.
Overall, it's important to remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness, and that it's ultimately up to you to decide what is best for your well-being and happiness. I apologize for the way you've been treated and hope that you're able to find a solution that works for you. I wish the best of luck to you and your decision.
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