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by: New MemberI recently rushed a sorority but I haven't been initiated yet. I don't think this is the house for me anymore and I was wondering what I should do. Should I stick with it or what would happen if I decide to drop out and rush somewhere else? Is that allowed? The reason I want to drop out is that I found out after I joined the house has been having some problems with recruitment in the past and I was expecting to meet a lot of people but the chapter is smaller than I expected. That didn't really bother me but we never have events to bond or get to know any of the sisters except the same 10 people I see during meals. I don't feel comfortable coming to the house and I don't see a lot of sisterhoods as well. Sometimes I get a sense that people don't like each other and I've heard gossiping around which made me feel out of place. I'm scared to tell the officers about this especially because I'm not sure what I should do yet, I really like the people in my pledge class but i feel disconnected to the older people.
Comment#2by: well
If you have not been initiated yet, but you accepted a bid you have to wait a year before you re-rush again. If you aren't feeling comfortable you should probably reach out to other girls in the house just to casually hang out and see if meeting more people makes you feel better. If they are really your sisters, this shouldn't be awkward and you should definitely feel comfortable reaching out to them.
by: umm yeah
When I accepted my bid from COB I had to sign something with PHC about not being able to rush for a year.
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#3by: hey there
When I joined my chapter, after the initial bid day high, there was a time when I didn't feel super welcome (had trouble connecting with my big, a few people were being catty toward me). I brought it up with the officer who does new member education and she was very supportive of me, told me my concerns were valid, and pointed me toward some events to attend to help me get more involved. It didn't solve all the problems, but even airing my concerns made me feel better. So that would be a good first step. Some people from pretty much every pc in every house drop, but since it is an important decision it's worth looking into some other options first.
#4by: surprising
It's odd your mentioning that a sorority with recruitment/retention issues hasn't had any mandatory 'bonding' events or at least a pledge-inclusive sisterhood retreat. This ought to be a priority for any low-on-the-totem-pole campus group.
Your attendance at optional events other than dinners may need to become more of a priority for you to meet members other than the same ten women you mention consistently seeing. If they are holding sisterhood events that you never hear about, speaking with your new member educator or another exec board member may help get you on track to better attendance and meeting more chapter women. Do not be afraid to reach out to people; we live for each other.
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by: dhcl
that's only for ffr not for cob
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