why great women get cut

Last year my friend dropped when she got dropped by the only house she wanted. She was bored and lonely all year and is rushing again now. I got cut by houses too, but kept an open mind. I preffed a top house and a bottom house. I joined the bottom house and I love it! The girls are great. So glad I didn't make a mistake and end up where I really didn't feel like I fit just because it was higher or drop out all together.

You might also talk to someone who really likes you but doesn't have the pull in the house that another sister does, or who isn't as vocal or assertive. It's really not personal . . . . don't take it that way.

If you preffed a house, it meant that they were willing to have you as a sister and would have extended you a bid even if you did not end up there. Women are not cut or dropped by houses on pref night, they are ranked and, of course, women also rank the houses. Pairings are then made by panhellenic alums (or some group of adult women) based on a number of factors out of control of the houses. So if you didn't end up at your first choice, don't take it personally, they would have been happy to have you. Give whatever house you did end up with a fighting chance. All the houses and their women are good! And all the houses have so many women you can certainly find someone you like there. :)

bump from last year

everyone gets cut! don't feel like you're alone or rejected! just keep going!!!

If you can make it through the first 2 rounds give yourself a huge high five as its rough because of the huge cuts by top houses. But the good news is that you now can focus on figuring out which house to join and you have some seriously good options. Don't look back, just look forward.

Great job PNMs! You're almost there!!!

Rejection. Just typing the work totally sucks. Yep, it sucks and it hurts. Unfortunately thought its built into the recruitment process. Rounds 1 and 2 hurt everyone and they hurt us to have to make those hard choices (up til 3 am doing the long hard review process). There is no way to not feel the sting of rejection as everyone going through feels the sting at some point during the week. The trick though (and its tough sometimes) is to have a bit of faith (yep, another tricky thing) and keep going. As written extensively here and elsewhere about Cal greeklife we have solid options for people in any number of houses. Look for a place where you are welcomed and comfortable. Academics are a big part of the reason we are here so look for people that understand and appreciate your goals and will support your hard work. Close friend groups are typically small (less than 5 people) so keep this in mind as you meet people in houses...you just have to find a close group of like minded people and then its a huge bonus if you find an entire house of like minded people. I won't share my boo hoo recruitment story here, but know that even if you get your 2nd, 3rd or 12th favorite house on bid night you will somehow manage to find your tribe in greeklife.