Chapter dynamics

sounds like you’re rushing for the right reasons, and unfortunately interactions are so short and practiced during rush it really is hard to tell. The more resources a sorority has, the more effort they will put into looking absolutely perfect during recruitment. I’m not going to name any chapters, and I have friends in some sororities that have people tend to think have a rougher sisterhood, and they still have made a few close friends in their chapters.
Nobody during rush is going to come out and say they don’t like each other, but look for cues. Yes there’s a look to rush, but does it feel almost too perfect? Like if every girl in the room looks a certain way, ask yourself how you’d feel if you didn’t have that look and your chapter didn’t want you on the floor- or if you want to be in a sorority that prioritizes looks. If the decorations, video, etc look like they cost a semesters worth of tuition, understand that sorority prioritizes money, because some of these productions aren’t cheap.
And that’s not to knock them-sororities put so much effort into recruitment because it’s super important, but I think sometimes that leads to focusing on the wrong things. I remember one year a sorority had a video where sisters were just driving around like a rented Lamborghini, and I was really like what is the point of this except to show you have money.
Ask the girls about their favorite memories with their sisters- most will say big little or some other sorority event, but try to get a sense of how they talk about each other- do the memories seem genuine and unique or they talk in that contrived rush way like “I was always so obsessed with my big” but you can’t tell why from the conversation.
Finally, if sisterhood is really important to you, let the sisters know that and talk about the kind of support you’re looking for and how you’d like to be involved. Sororities that care about those things will see it as a huge green flag.

These are huge groups of women so even with the best intentions not everyone is going to get along but that is okay your sisters will still have your back even if not every single one is your bff. We try our best though! All our um sororities are pretty great!