ten things i wish i knew as a pnm

All of the sororities are great! Give them each a chance. I wanted my mom's group and I was cut the second day from that group. I cried all night and my mom told me I could either sit there and continue to cry about a group that cut me or I could look at the groups who wanted me. The next morning I felt sad but I went to my parties and really paid attention to the groups I had and although I was still unhappy at how my hopes had ended with my favorite sorority, I found that several others really wanted me. I got what I wanted in the end and even though I'm sure I would have been happy in my mom's group if I had gotten in, I am so glad I stuck it out and pledged a wonderful sorority that I am very active in.

Believe me, there are plenty that go through this! Thank you for your input! I got dropped from my favorite also (my mom's sorority that I wanted) and I thought seriously about just dropping out completely the third day. I called my mother crying and heartbroken and she drove 3 hours to be with me. We decided that I would think about it and if wanted to quit, we'd go home the next day. She told me something that made me think hard (mom's are like that). When she pledged her sorority, she had wanted another and she had cried and her mom (my grandmother was not in a sorority) told her "at least someone did want you, look at them and not then one who dropped you". She did and now she told me the same thing as @Agree2's mom told her. I realized it was time to grow up and it was my decision. I stayed and pledged a wonderful group. I also found that this happens to so many girls! I cannot say it enough, "Come with your heart open, you may not get who you came for, but there may be another sorority just waiting for you." My best friend who is beautiful and a double legacy got nothing and she was crushed. She ended up getting really involved in several organizations. She will never get over the ordeal, but she still enjoyed college life. Being in a sorority is only part of that situation. There are so many opportunities on campus to find friends that if the sorority wish falls through, you can still be happy. Many do!

Thanks for writing all this! I was crushed when I got dropped by the sorority that I wanted as was my best friend. I decided to stick it out, but she dropped out. I pledged a group I had never even considered and I have some of the best friends and had some of the most wonderful times that could not be any different than if I had gotten my "dream" sorority! My friend is still my best friend, but she never pledged anything because she thought if she waited, her favorite group would take her later, they never had a place, so she never pledged anything. My group never had any openings either (and someone claims they are low, but we never have had any problems pledging great girls and are one of the most involved on campus), when we were freshmen and sophomore and now she's too old to get in really. She wishes she'd stayed in rush and found a group, but she did what she thought she had to do. So follow this main post suggestions, they are on the mark. If you read negative things about a group, its usually written by one or two girls only under different names. All the groups have the same kind of girls (and yes, they all have all sizes of girls!). Try to give all the sororities a look and open your eyes to what each offers. Sororities offer a lot and part of that is gaining maturity while away at college, unfortunately there are some on GR who have slid backwards or never moved forward from high school. Good rushing to all!