Trans and rushing
by: Pnm!!Hey guys! I am a trans girl from Arizona coming to AU and i'm super interested in rushing but Im horrified of getting dropped or bullied a ton. I think im pretty well passing with my hair grown out to about armpit length and I've been on estrogen for about a year and a half. Should I worry? Be honest, and please give honest advice. Thank you guys and can't wait for rush 🥰
#1 by: AU!
I mean this with the most genuine advice, but do not go through formal recruitment. I highly suggest maybe COB-ing after your first semester, but do not go through formal recruitment. 1) for your safety 2) for your respect. You are going to rush in a Southern SEC School where the majority of the people on this campus are conservative. You will face a lot of discrimination because of you being trans and you’re already going to meet people who might invalidate your identity. Alabama is a LOT different from Arizona culturally.
Coming from a sorority girl who is very supportive of the trans community, I would wait for spring or COB recruitment where you will be able to talk to a girl one on one and potentially get a bid but even them a lot of sororities are not open to giving out bids to trans girls. I know girls that are queer, lesbian, bi, and are gender neutral in Greek Life, but they are all AFAB. I just don’t think sororities will be open to giving a bid to you or might potentially completely cut you by philanthropy. This includes sororities that extends bids to everyone like Trisig, Theta, and Kappa. You being AMAB will automatically have people perceive you by your gender assigned at birth. A lot of sororities have rules that allow people who “identify as women” to join their sorority, but a lot of the time, the chapter decides how that rule is applied. Some sororities will out right not give you the chance which i know sounds awful. Although these are female sororities, at least in the South that means female exclusively. Please consider joining a service sorority. I know omega phi alpha is a great organization that is gender inclusive.
If you do go through recruitment, good luck and i hope you stay safe. I know this all sounds scary and intimidating, but I honestly just want to be transparent with you because although you will be treated kindly, you wont be respected because girls will put a facade up.
Really I hope you find a place that welcomes you with open arms :)
#4 by: No hate but sorry
I will speak honestly from my perspective and that of an awful lot of people I know. You would not be considered as a woman, no matter what you consider yourself to be. You would be considered as 'other'. Your lived experience as what you consider a trans woman, and my lived experience as what I consider an actual woman, aren't anything alike. We are not similar in the least and you don't belong in my group anymore than I belong in yours. I do not accept you as a sister just because you want to be one, and I view your trying to join my sorority as an attempt to invade my sacred space. My sorority is not a way for you to validate your transness or help you become more like me. No, I don't hate you, no, I don't wish bad things for you, and I'm sorry you face bullying. But I don't want to be bullied either by someone insisting they belong with me. I know you need a space to belong like everyone does, and I support your right to do or be in anything else you want to do here except sorority or play a woman's sport.
#5 by: No
"I think im pretty well passing" says it all. Passing as a girl doesn't make you an actual girl. Anything you can ever do, from growing your hair out and wearing makeup and girl clothes, to cosmetic procedures and hormones and surgery is only about passing. It may make you a girl in your own mind but not in reality. Nothing can ever make you a girl. I'm sorry you have this mental burden.
#6 by: dropped
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by: AU!Jul 8, 2024 10:30:14 PM
I also want to include, there had been no trans woman in a sorority at auburn so please be prepared for rejection