do you really know?

Again we are seeing an influx of moms disappointed, unhappy, even enraged that dear, perfect daughter did not get a bid.
No. 1 - Did dear daughter drop out because the few sororities worthy of her did not see it the same way? Did she still have invitations to so-called "lower tier" groups but "couldn't make a connection" there? In that case, no sympathy.
No. 2 - grades. There's a reason we ask for a transcript. Right - we can see that she loaded up with easy courses her senior year to get a high GPA.
No. 3 - Sometimes moms are clueless about DD. DD has wonderful grades, is gorgeous, personable, witty, involved, killer wardrobe. But DD sometimes is also hateful to other girls. Or DD sleeps around and is well known for it. Moms would not know something like that and nobody's going to tell them.