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Connections are formed over years through school, camp, church, family friends, those types of things. You can't insinuate yourself into sorority member connections like that. To give yourself your best shot, make good grades, have a good resume, keep your insta and other social media clean, and get your recs for every house.

I rushed and was oos, and got called back to only 3 sororities on philanthropy day, but 2/3 I loved so it all was okay. Just trust the process and you'll find your home, or if you don't think it's for you there's tons of other clubs to join!

"Success" gave the best answer - you can't force connections and the truth is that for girls who come here with no connections, you will likely have a more challenging rush. Doesn't mean you can't find a home - you can - but I think it's good to know this in advance.

I've known girls who had no connections, came from far OOS and then were shocked when they were dropped. Better to know now and get everything else in order - including recs. Get them and get them in early. Even you think you don't know alums, you can find them - parents' friends, teachers, etc. Many girls who don't know much about rush here don't realize how important they are.

I had 4-5 recs per house, a 3.8 gpa, 32 act, over 600 volunteer hours, and I was invited back to 6 and none of them were top. I thought IWT went super well, but I'm from further north but still technically a southern state and knew NOBODY coming into auburn. I think that's why I got cut, because I'm not a legacy anywhere and I don't have single friend in the sororities. Recs don't seem to matter.

To OP - you wrote: "If I get at least one rec per house, will I be more likely to be invited back? My other big thing is that I want a more southern house. Obviously I know some are out of reach, but I don’t want to ONLY go back to houses that are more “northern” because I’m trying to get away from that type of culture, I guess. If I conveyed this to them would it make a difference? Sorry for so many questions, again, I’m just a little worried and a lot clueless."

I definitely would get recs, but connections are what's most important for many houses. The number of recs isn't what counts, having them. If you have recs and other non-connected girls don't and you're the rare PNM a Southern house really likes, you have an advantage. So don't overlook them.

I've seen Northern girls get into Southern houses but usually only with connections. Maybe a rare time when someone does without any connections. I know that's not what you want to hear (but it's the way it is in life - think about a job search, no different - you know someone at Company A and the other person doesn't, you're more likely to get in for the interview) but going somewhere where you know no-where does present challenges. It's not just the SEC either. I have friends who've gone elsewhere and faced similar challenges.

I don't think it would matter if you told members you want into a more Southern house - it could become a bit awkward, in my opinion. You are at a disadvantage so it's better to know now and do your best when you're here. And have fun - there's nothing as off-putting as someone desperate to get into a certain house!

You are reading waaay too much into Northern/Southern houses. There is not the distinction that you are imagining. I mean, 65% of Auburn's students come from Alabama, and another 20% come from Georgia and Florida, if that tells you anything. You would not have a "Northern" experience or culture in any house here at Auburn, where everything is Southern.

I don’t know where the distinction between northern and southern comes from. I can’t think of any sorority from Auburn considered more “northern”. Like poster above said they all prob have 65% from Alabama and you’ll most probably hear a “hey y’all” from all of them. I will say I think connections aren’t end all be all. The weird thing about recruitment is that there really are so many factors. I knew a girl who’s mother was president of one of the chapters here and the girl was still dropped. I knew two others that had the supposed connections but then were kinda blindsided by their “friends”. I could go off on more but the point is that each girl still ended up in a sorority perfect for them. Having connections are important but if you don’t have as many it’s okay just take the time to really sell yourself with grades, involvement, and conversation! If you want the extra help, sign up for things like OAKS during the summer or make a point to meet the CWE girls.

Find out if there is an Auburn Alumni chapter close to you. There are alumni groups all over the US and many host a freshman send-off every year in addition to offering academic scholarships. Its a great place to network with alumni and possibly find some additional recommendations.

OP, still reach out to them. Right now there is a lot of focus on football as the season is getting ready to start and the back to school activities have concluded. They may have some events planned for later in the fall/winter.