help a clueless parent!
by: Mom
Hi everyone. I am the parent of a PNM at Auburn. We are from New England with NO experience with sororities. My daughter always knew she wanted to go through recruitment but had no idea what was involved. She got sidetracked this summer with health issues and surgeries. Up until last week we thought she was going to defer her enrollment a year but lo and behold she got the last minute approval to attend school this year.
So she is all moved in and started recruitment. She is having a blast.
At orientation (she was in the last group) they told the girls recommendations were not necessary and if a chapter likes them they will help them get the necessary recommendation. So my daughter didn't pursue recommendations. Now the girls in her recruitment group are telling her that if she doesn't have recs by the second day she will automatically be cut.
True?
I am so far away and the thought of her being released the first couple of days with nothing to do the rest of the time is worrying me.
I wish I found you all sooner!
#12by: Prejudice
#14by: heartsick mom
This has also been my daughters experience. OOS as well. No idea what is going on but even her pi chi told her she was seriously confused about why she was dropped from so many houses so fast. She's down to two and only kind of likes one. She's devastated and not sure what to do.
#15by: In State Mom
Rush is so stressful... I get it. I've been there a couple of times. My daughters are in different sororities and probably half of both are from out of state. And not just sobuthern out of state, but from all over the country. When my girls went through they were cut deep, too. And it hurts! Two parties today is the most they can have, I believe, so if she only has two, that's great! Please don't believe what you read on this site. It's a bunch of kids acting like they are still in high school. All of the houses at Auburn are good and have something to offer. And they all have the same types of girls in them..... Pretty, cute, plain, smart, average, partiers, church goers, ones you wonder how they actually function day to day. And your girls will find their people in any of them. I hope tomorrow everyone ends up happy!
#16by: aula
If PNM has two choices on pref day that's wonderful. The generalized statement that Auburn sororities don't like girls from outside Alabama is not true. My sorority has girls from alabama, Florida , South Carolina and Georgia, but also girls from Louisiana, Texas, Massachusetts, Connecticut, New York, & Ohio. We pledge from coast to coast.
#17by: Mom
Well there you have it. A few on here saying that someone they knew or their daughter or a friend's daughter didn't have recs and ended up with a Bid. Plus her suitemate (also from the north with no clue or recs) had two of her top choices come today. It isn't my daughter's grades I know that, looks (nope), activities or awards. So maybe there is a personality issue. Maybe because of her health she was just a little off her game. We will never know. Maybe not personal at all. Maybe just a numbers game.
My daughter really bonded with yet another group out of the two she had left and really liked them. No invite for preference round though. The other group she had been trying to find a connection with all week. She is so grateful to them for keeping her on their list. However, she is just not feeling it. She is trying to meet different sisters but every conversation was forced and she just didn't have that "home" feeling there
She did take them up on the preference round invitation. This time also trying to see if she thought the other recruits were more her speed. Unfortunately, in the end she decided she would withdraw. She never likes to do something half heartedly and didn't want to potentially take a spot away from someone who really, really wanted it.
She is o.k. Not going to lie, it stings as much as in the end not getting a bid. She keeps wondering how things went so well with so many others yet no invite back. She moved through the stages pretty quickly. Right now she is with her 3 suitemates (all of whom ended up with their top two houses) and celebrating the end of their week and their excitement and anticipation over which house they will get. She is also still planning to go to dinner with her Pi Chi group for the big Pi Chi reveal and to celebrate with those girls.
She has already registered for COB and is planning to attend church Sunday and introduce herself to the university kids, go to swim club meeting and join Best Buddies. She may or may not take advantage of any COB opportunities that come her way, only time will tell.
#18by: To Mom
Oh, so sorry to hear this, but am really impressed with your daughter's attitude. She sounds like someone I'd love to have in my sorority. Says a lot about her good heart that she didn't want to take a spot from a girl who really wanted it when she wasn't feeling it. I'm glad she's signed up for COB. Having suitemates who are in sororities and meeting sorority women through them might put her in a good place for COB to work out sometime this school year. That happened to two of my friends here two years ago. Formal recruitment didn't go their way, but they got involved in other things, made friends with sorority members, and pledged (different chapters) the next semester through COB and have been happy. I hope it goes that way for your girl!
#19by: heartsick mom
#20by: SEC alum
Oh dear moms! My heart breaks for your daughters and yet Auburn is a good place to be and not be greek. My daughter is a Pi Chi this year and she honors her commitment and doesn't tell me much. However, her main reason for being a Pi Chi is that she wants girls to realize this is not the most important thing in a girls life. I suggest getting involved with FPL and then SGA! these are fabulous ways to meet tons of people. And, maybe your daughters will see that most of the sororities are all pretty good and may try again next year. Most of my daughters friends came from her dorm, church and clubs her first year, NOT from her sorority!!! Hang in there....thinking of you all:)
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by: No
That's not true at all.