which sorority to join?

Honestly, it's up to you. My chapter is a lot like that but you have to find your own home instead of having someone say, "this chapter is like that!" Because sure they could be what you're looking for, but you don't jell well with the girls.

check out spring recruitment and get to know the girls, i think you should just pick out which sorority you feel most comfortable with because in all honesty, that's what's most important and every sorority parties so that'll come with it haha

I would honestly recommend you to go through fall recruitment. That way you can get to see all the houses and make your decision by how comfortable you feel in each one as to oppose choosing one from what you are told about each house.

If you want to meet the girls for real and actually get to "hang out" with girls then do spring. If you are good with small talk and putting yourself out there and doing work then do fall. Spring is slightly limited (but it's only by two houses which you might not even like) but it's more relaxed and it's easier to get a bid but for fall you get to see every single house on campus and talk to a lot of girls.