new member of a lower tier sorority?
by: confused new memberhow bad is it to be in a "lower tier" sorority (phi mu)? when i pref'ed i had one top tier, one mid, and one lower, and of course i ended up there even though i put them 3rd. they do seem like a wonderful, diverse group of girls but i never thought i would end up there so now i don't know what to do. i was never the type of person to judge by rankings and reps, but will this affect my greek experience? how is the UF chapter of phi mu? i was planning to be involved in a sorority starting freshman year but now i don't know whether i should stick through with it or drop and re-rush. how difficult/bad would it be if i chose to re-rush next year?
#1by: Reposting
Not at all! If you are somewhere that loves you, that's the best. This site tries to make it seem like there are huge gaps between houses, but it's not really true. Girls in DZ look a lot like girls in ADPi, girls in Chi O look a lot like girls in KD, girls in DG look a lot like girls in Pi Phi, etc etc. and this year all of the houses got large, diverse PCs with a great group of girls. If you asked a bunch of frat guys to go around the Phillips Center last night and guess which girls were going to which house they'd fail. And after you graduate, wherever you live, not only will you have your college sisters but a national org of alumni around the world. Literally the only difference in your experience that varies by tier are which fraternities you mix with, and honestly you can still go to whatever open parties you want.
Yeah, it's nice for like a week to be courted by a "top" fraternity but that feeling pales in comparison to the memories you'd make in a year at your house. It's the friendships that matter in the end, no matter the "tier."
Comment#4by: Keep with it
Being in a lower tier sorority will not effect your experience dramatically. I was in a lower tier sorority and ended up dating a guy in a top tier fraternity and went to all of their parties and date functions. It only takes a few girls like you to change people's opinions! Stick with it; you won't regret it!!
#6by: Just a thought....
I felt a little disappointed on bid day too not getting my top choice. Every PNM has been through a long and grueling process. I believe that each of us ended up exactly where we were meant to be sisters. No matter where we were offered bids, the girls that just came into our lives are beautiful, kind, thoughtful and have something to offer us. I am going to give myself time to get to know my new sisters and I think you should too. I think, in the end, we will be glad we did and happy our houses chose us!
#7by: been there done that
I was in the same situation last year. I am proud sister of a "lower tier" house. I was shocked last year on bid day and when I went to the house I smiled but inside I was crying and confused. I thought I had made a connection to the "top tier" house that I put first and I felt rejected. At first I did not go to the house as much as should have but a friend gave me some good advice and told me to stick with it. I have never been happier. I have made life long friends. I am a junior now and when I leave after next year and get on with my career it won't matter what tier my sorority was but what will matter are the good friends and sisters that I have. Stick with it.
#8by: There are....
....many unhappy girls in some of the so-called top houses; one house in particular comes to mind. This happens every year. Why? Because P.N.M.s are blinded by the show put on during recruitment and come to find there is no sisterhood and a lot of backstabbing. The saying about not judging a book by its cover applies here. Who wants to be told what to wear, how to act, how to pose, who to hang out with and more for four years? A friend pledged a lower tier sorority at Auburn and she and her sisters turned it around in four years and that chapter does really well now. Stick with your house and you can do something wonderful! Good luck and Pan love!
by: Uhhh
This is blatantly untrue. Give it a chance if you think it can work, but know that many many girls do drop and re-rush if they don't feel comfortable. And they're successful, I know many and was one myself. I was shocked on bid day and the second time got my top choice and while you shouldn't judge on tier, don't force it out of pity either.
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#10by: Why not?
I skipped throught all the coment so sorry if i repeat. I know a lot if girls that had the same view of a cirtain sorority and now they cant get enough of it. Im not part of that chapter, but from what i see girls allways end up obsessed with that house and i believe you will too. I know if people that join their first choice and then drop to join a "Bottom" house because of how great they are! So give it a try participare in their process. Maybe ull love it!
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by: Bummed feeling
Something to keep in mind is you're probably feeling disappointed about not getting your top pick(s), like "why me?" It's definitely a bummer to see another girl in the letters you wanted and think "why wasn't I as high on the bid list?" Even if your new sisters are sweet that's a tough thing to shake off, I totally get it. The important thing to remember is that the way bid lists work it's not that those houses didn't want you, they just couldn't take all the girls they loved enough to pref. if you think about it that way it starts to take the sting out of getting 2nd or 3rd choice and feel less like a personal rejection. Don't totally ignore the disappointment, let yourself feel it and process it, but don't let it blind you to the love you're being offered at your new house! And also, don't just decide on the basis of your bid day buddy or the few women you've met. I didn't meet my future big right away, it took a few days before I really met a lot of the girls in my house when I was a NM. Feeling sad is natural but don't let it drive you away from a great group of girls!
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