re: sorority rushing
by: Concerned parent
As a parent with a daughter who wants to participate in Fall Rush, I find myself in disbelief to what I read and what I see. 1st - I sit and wonder how a Sorority can possibly judge 1700 girls based on a 5-10 minute superficial conversation?
2nd - Is my daughter being judged only by her looks and what she is wearing at the time? How does a Sorority truly know if she would be a good fit or not based upon 2 or 3 conversations?
3rd - I sit and read all the reviews and can't belief how Sororities are being reviewed and tiers determines more by the attractiveness of the latest Pledge class vs. community service - things that truly matter. Since when does rushing become a Miss USA contest?
4th - I sit and read the reviews as one Sorority bashes another. I thought this was College and not High School?
My daughter is beautiful on the inside and out and I truly do not want this for her. I will support her only because it is what she wants.
For the record, I am not the only parent extremely disillusioned by the entire UF Sorority Rushing process.
#31by: OtherOther angry mom
the problem is these girls all got into UF, so they all have great attribute....Duh...your daughter is no more special than mine...yours may even be smarter but that is not evaluated in 10-15 minutes while appearance can be..
It is just not about physical beauty...
they are evaluated on how they carry themselves, their shoes, make-up, clothing...ect. that all have to do with each sororities image....Im not saying that is a good thing, but that is the way it is.....
#33by: Mom and alum
OMG I don't even know where to begin on this thread!! I am a UF sorority alum and a Mom of a daughter who recently went thru rush at another Florida school. She was dropped by most and decided to drop out and later regretted it ( my advice was for her to stick it out but it was of course her ultimate decision). I felt for her but told her how imperfect and superficial the rush process can be. She has to learn to make it on her own in this world! I really feel for some of your daughters who can clearly see how upset YOU are. This will make things worse for them. Please let them know that Greek life is not the only thing that matters at UF and encourage them to get involved in other activities as there are MANY. Looks have ALWAYS been a factor in UF rush but as others have said not the only thing. Since I joined a sorority I have seen parents threatening to sue over legacies getting dropped, parents trying to bribe a house with $$ etc and this only hurts their girls IMHO.
#34by: Fraternity Row
#35by: Well
I am a parent. My daughter went through recruitment...was released by a couple houses...stuck with it and joined a sorority
I read through this thread and it appears that you., as parents, are focused on the "top" sorority issue, so why would your children not be as well.
There is so much "tent talk" during recruitment among the girls themselves. It is not the "top" houses that are saying things about one another/they are absolutely not allowed to do so during recruitment...it is the girls going through recruitment spreading the word and rumors...it spreads like wildfire...and in the end, my daughter found out some of it was just not true at all...
Shame on them for listening to it all
Also, you realize this is an anonymous, superficial website...people can be saying they are moms, guys, in a top sorority, lower sorority, frat, alumae, ect.....and it may not even be true...you have no idea who is posting these comments...
People will make stuff up just for fun and at your expense to see your response.
I will get off my soapbox, but if you want real sympathy and advise...please go to your friends...and your old sorority sisters.....this is embarrassing
#40by: Two cents
Hi Moms!
From a chapter woman's perspective, I think you shouldn't judge all of UF Panhellenic based on this website. Most of the "reviewers" on here are from one of the top five houses, and yes, those houses are renowned for being superficial. But the rest of us are actually genuine and loving sisterhoods who truly to want to get to know your daughters for who they are. Round 1 interviews are short, but by the time we pref your daughters we get to spend 40 minutes with them one-on-one. I hope your daughters have found their homes amongst sisters who adore them for who they are and who believe that they have the qualities necessary to elevate their chapter. If not, I hope that they (and you) don't judge the entire system based on the nastiness of the "top tier" snobs. Also - you're not being helicopter moms, you're being great mothers. My mom called me in a panic about this webpage when I went through recruitment years ago. I'm glad for her advice and her caring, not just through recruitment but throughout college. She pushed me to accept a bid from a mid-level house rather than to fall in with a "top tier", and as usual, mom was right!
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No, my daughter wouldn't be mortified. She knows that I love her and my concern is genuine. Can you say the same for yourself or the rushing process?