rush question

First of all this if def the fugging mom, because you type like a 55-year-old and nobody is named "joanie" anymore, ma'am.

Second of all, while many houses may keep her out of courtesy, these aren't the same sisters you had. Why would you want her to be forced into somewhere she wouldn't fit? Why hope for a house you know nothing about? Are they a "top" house and you know your daughter wouldn't make the cut?

I'm all for lifelong-sisterhood and the idea of legacies getting extra consideration, but if you don't know your own house's rules then you clearly aren't involved anymore. And idgaf (whippersnapper lingo) if my daughter was cut, I'd want her sisters to want her, not resent her automatic bid.

wow...pretty rude response. I sure hope I am not associated w the house that u are in......

Not sure how you can't agree.. It's the reality of the situation.

I know it is sometimes a tradition in certain houses...but form experience, if you are automatically placed in a house that does not really want you ...you will be kind of an outcast....

So would it be better to be polite and take you just because..or better to be "rude" drop you so you end up in a house better suited to you...and who knows, that may just be the house for you

Go thru rush and enjoy the experience. Keep an open mind with every round. I know several girls, including myself, that were dropped from houses they were legacies to at UF. I found the right fit for me. Yay, my mom was sad that her house dropped me but she got over it pretty quick when she met amazing sisters. Now, we each have our own traditions, which when you think about it is pretty cool. Don't let the posters above get you down!

Going great. I love all of the houses - every single one of them. The house that my mom belonged to was so nice to me. I think I could fit in really to any of the houses. This is so exciting.

I am not that dumb. Joanie is my family nickname because its a family name. My grandparents call me Joanie. Thats not the name I go by everyday.

is it me or does that sound sketchy af^^

maybe a little sketch, but who cares...no harm and if she is legit then we should support her!!

so you were only left with the sorority you were a legacy to?

Joanie, as an active Alumna Member of the UF sorority ranked #1 for many decades - from founding until recently - I am appalled by the girls who posted heinous, spurious comments in reply to your question. Shame on you girls! Your actions reflect everything we Alumnae want PURGED from National Panhellenic.
I am so very sorry that Rush did not follow your expectations. :-(

Regarding Legacies, I have strong feelings and much personal experience. I was always 100% Pro-Legacy with regard to them receiving an automatic bid. When I had my two daughters (right after college), I was filled with excitement at the thought of sharing the bonds of sisterhood with my precious girls & pinning their badges on each one personally. #Joy #Tears #OnceInALifetimeMemories. However, as time went on, my opinion was radically changed. First, my beloved chapter at UF was suddenly no longer #1 & the culprit was the flood of legacies who came in the post-Millenial years and choked out the wonderful recruits chosen on their own merits and best fit with the group rather than maternal birthright. My sisters and I - and especially my daughters who were nearing high school & dreaming of college - watched our beloved institution slip to #2, #3, then #4. I think it stopped at mid-tier, but by then it made us ill to watch. Something had to be done, & the solution was that Legacies lost their privileges & now all are equal. Sadly, balance wasn't achieved in time for my older daughter, who pledged the current top sorority - one that was quite below mine until the "slip" & I took it hard. But she's happy, the girls are amazing & now the "Legacy Fix" has improved things so my younger daughter can't wait to pledge my sorority & wear my old jersey. Lesson: it all works out for the best. ♡♡♡ 2U