How bad is being shy for sorority rush?

The top houses are hard to get into unless you have connections or a model bombshell

honestly i think you need to be yourself and go with the flow. if you’re shy you probably wouldn’t actually enjoy being in the sororities you got dropped from. remember that if you aren’t getting along with the girls you’re talking to you should take it as a sign that you wouldn’t enjoy the sorority.

If you go through rush again and have made friends with sorority members it will help you a lot. Sorority members are in your dorm, in your classes, are friends of friends. Try to connect with them and give them a chance to get to know you outside of rush. Then, if you like their house, be sure to tell them you are interested, they can't read your mind. Girls do fall through the rush cracks for being shy but often do great the second time around. You will be more at ease having made connections and understanding what to expect.

from the side of a recruiter in one of the “less competitive houses” you would probably feel more comfortable during spring rush. many houses set up coffee dates and more intimate events so conversations feel more personal and less forced. honestly though, being in a sorority at all isn’t worth it if you’re not going to be open minded and committed to the process. recruitment is brutal and most people have pretty rough new member experiences, so i don’t think it’s worth the time or money if you’re not gonna put the effort into adjusting to a house if it wasn’t your first choice. I understand the disappointment of getting dropped, especially by houses you really liked, because i went through it too. being in a “bottom house” made me feel like a reject and i thought about dropping out of recruitment too. however now i couldn’t be happier and i have a leadership role. keep an open mind if you want to try again but sororities aren’t for everyone.