trouble with friends

its only awkward if you make it awkward

didn't feel totally comfortable until like december

I don't feel comfortable in my house either. I go to all the events and stuff and try to talk to other new members but I still am not feeling a connection. Will probably drop before initiation, honestly. Just doesn't feel like home to me.

went to a frat party where someone in my pledge class walked right by me, and pretended she did not know me. DID NOT EVEN SPEAK TO ME. , AND SHE KNOWS ME. CAN YOU IMAGINE. GET USE TO IT, or drop your house. CATTY. I HATE TI.

During recruitment, it seems like magic. Join this chapter and you will instantly have the bond of sisterhood with 250+ women! And then you join and realize you don't actually know any of them, or where they're from, or what they do for fun. And everyone has class to go to and studying to do and suddenly the happy bubble of recruitment is gone.

EVERYONE goes through this. The expectations set during recruitment don't carry through to real life. You can't reasonably expect to become insta-BFFs with 250 people, and it's an emotional letdown.

If you're looking for something to try, you could announce at a new member meeting that you're going to some sort of campus event (pick one, there are always a million) or starting a study group or really anything, and ask if any other new members want to join you. I guarantee other people in your class feel the same way, and at least one of them will jump at the chance to make a new friend.

You girls are spending thousands of dollars to feel awkward, uncomfortable, or only have a few friends. Just sayin.

there is a lot of negativity on this post, I'm so sorry to see that some of you are going through this. but also wanted to point out that not every sorority is this catty/confrontational. I'm PC16 and not gonna lie, in the beginning it was awkward. getting to know people is hard and some people seem to do it effortlessly, which can be intimidating, but after about a month here, I've started to get very close to the girls and I'm loving my PC so much. It's not all sunshine and rainbows but as time goes on I find out just how much I have in common with these girls and feel truly supported and loved, in a way that I would not had I never rushed. Girls that rushed me still talk to me and say hi whenever I see them, and girls I've barely met are so sweet to me solely for the fact that I'm their sister. #blessed

pc 15. my 2nd year. I do not really care for the girls in my house. not all that nice. If you find a couple good friends, you will be good. the sisterhood thing is lie.

It's really a shame that so many of you are disappointed with your house. I'm in love with the girls in my house even if I'm not friends with all of them and I can't imagine feeling so distant from everyone. I'm not saying this to make you feel bad, I'm saying that that shouldn't be the norm :(

this post breaks my heart. I've found such a genuine and caring sisterhood and it makes me sad that not everyone has found the same. I feel comfortable going to ANY of my sisters with a problem, even if we aren't close or have never even talked before. I know that I am genuinely loved and cared about. my sisters have taught me more about being a good friend/person than I could ever thank them for.